tetris11 comments on What's your most disastrous date?

[–] tetris11@feddit.uk 6 points 1 week ago* (2 children)

I've had one of those. She was fresh from a breakup and I think was looking to punish someone. I even offered to go sleep in another hotel but she called me back to bed. I think she did like me, but was working some things out without really knowing it. Smoking hot though, easily the sexiest woman I've ever been with

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[–] agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 week ago (1 child)

I imagine there's a bit of a correlation.

One, being smoking hot takes time and effort (hair, makeup, skincare, fitness, etc.), and some inherent degree of vanity. There's nothing wrong with taking care of yourself and taking a basic level of pride and dignity in your appearance, but at a certain level it becomes obsessive.

Two, even if you're just naturally hot, you were probably always very attractive. People tend to be nicer to hot people and tolerate their bullshit way more. Without the natural pushback of being called out for emotional overstepping, there's no pressure for maturation. It's kinda like the trees grown in that biodome that collapsed under their own weight, because there wasn't any wind to strain and strengthen them.

I'm definitely not saying hot = emotionally unstable, I know plenty of very attractive and stable women. It's not universal. But the most self-obsessed and emotionally volatile women I've known have usually been very hot.

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[–] tetris11@feddit.uk 2 points 1 week ago

Yeah. I met her abroad in a fancy part of San Diego. Making huge sweeping assumptions here, but everyone there was just oozing self-importance. I felt a bit like I was in a zoo, and interacting with very well groomed fauna.

That is to say, I think her behaviour wasn't atypical of the area she lived in, from my somewhat judgemental lens

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