We should also be tackling actual problems before defending a stranger against "commentary" that boils down to "why are you surprised by the entirely predictable consequences of your own foolish decisions?"

I'm tired of pretending that parents didn't sign up for absolutely every part of being parents. They get no fucking sympathy from me. They chose that and they're inflicting it on everyone around them all the time who didn't get a choice. My sympathy is reserved for the childfree people who just wanted to eat dinner or watch a movie and got an earful of screaming child and a case of the daycare flu for their troubles.