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[–] 111 points 1 month ago* (16 children)

That is a very young age to experience not being believed by parents. The poor kid, I hope she's not traumatised. It's surprising the things that can mark us.

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  • [–] 25 points 1 month ago (7 children)

    I'm one of those kids. Either we're over explaining people pleasers or the trauma turned us into monsters.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 month ago (6 children)

    I think I know what you mean. That inner flurry can have a silent persistence that pushes us one way or the other, but doesn’t let us rest. Have you found anything that helps?

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (4 children)

    Forgive me for offering unsolicited advice, but one-to-one therapy with a psychodynamic trained (or other modality) therapist can really help.

    In parallel, meditation can help to overcome a certain amount of the uncomfortable feelings. I can share an inspiring documentary with you on the latter.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    Please share the documentary.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Here you go https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=WkxSyv5R1sg&ra=m

    It was seeing this that showed me how meditation helps even the mosts hardened of people. This method is also free to learn and free to attend worldwide.

    Not everyone can tolerate the stillness of meditating. But besides the exceptions, it has helped a lot of people. If you’ve any questions afterwards I’ll do my best to answer.

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  • [–] 41 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    Well, children aren't very good at telling the difference between real and fantasy. At least I'm fairly sure my nephew isn't actually Iron Man. Believing everything they say would be gullible at best, stupid at worst. And seriously, this won't be traumatizing because adults didn't believe the kid.

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  • [–] 26 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Neither of us can say that for sure because we don't have the necessary details. Internalisation is no myth, and it's very hard to work with when kids are pre-verbal or have low vocabulary. There are some good books on child (and adult) psychology that explain it better than I will here.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    There are some good books on child (and adult) psychology that explain it better than I will here.

    But there's this other book that says to ignore them and beat them when they're too annoying to ignore. It's called the bibble or something. Jeezus wrote it.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago (3 children)

    I think kids usually start speaking earlier than that.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Not enough to diagnose their inner state with a standard therapist.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    N=1 and all, but my son was quite capable of explaining, clearly and in detail, his inner life at three. He's on the spectrum and highly intelligent, so that may make him an outlier.

    (Both sons did fall for me calling saffron "monkey fur" well into grade school though.)

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago

    Fair, yes, although I’m talking about the unconscious inner world. It’s a sophisticated, two-way-communication that goes beyond the literal meaning of the words themselves to identify projections.

    There are people trained to do this work with that age group - but I don’t think the typical training for a psychotherapist (or a counsellor) enables or allows them to do it.

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