I want only a list of real life friends and family.

Why can't I just have that again?

Okay but it scales for us. I only follow my actual friends and family and I only want to see what they share, chronologically.

The crux of the issue is that what the platforms want to be, and the reason many people want to use them are misaligned.

A chronological feed makes no sense for a content delivery system, where the goal is to maximize the fit of the presented content to the interest of a user from a huge number of content creators. But it makes perfect sense if the goal is for a user to keep appraised of the lives of people they care about and be aware of events and situations with in that limited group. If someone spams or clogs up the feed with nonsense then people can tell them to nock it off, or mute them.

The problem is that every “social network” site inevitably jumps to try and become a “content delivery system” because it promises greater engagement from the existing user base, and thus growth. Users are trapped by inertia and network effects and forced to engage with a content delivery system they didn’t sign up for, assuming they don’t just leave because the utility of the platform as a social network is gone. By forcing companies to offer an option of a chronological feed, it gives them a choice on how they want to use the platform.

I want to see who i follow post, and when they posted it. The "algorithms" show me the same shit over and over again and hide new content from me I actually want to see.

Its not made for the end user

So, how would your ideal social media platform decide what to show to the user in what priority?

I use Mastodon with a chronological feed and it works very well for me. I check it every few hours or even minutes during waking hours (depending on how bored I am) and get a huge share of my news that way. Most of my activity here on Lemmy is posting articles I discover through that exact feed.

But of course, the context here is a certain bill introduced in Australia, to which the correct response would be more similar to this article: https://www.freezenet.ca/what-the-media-didnt-tell-you-about-the-australian-off-switch-bill/

That requires enough people I follow to where I need an outside entity to do the filter.

I think a big problem is the use case. Most social media sites are account led, not community led. This naturally makes it harder for users to find accounts outside their social circle.

The algorithm got added to fill the void.