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How's your week been? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 1 year ago by [B] to c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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[–] 11 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I found my local community! Even better I found a trans elder (I use this term in an endearing, "came before me and knows what she's doing" manner) who is fighting for our social justice. She's quite a stand-up person! After a few more online meetings, I'm looking forward to an in-person group meetup and joining in the fight.

On the flip-side, I had a very unpleasant encounter with a "friend" saying some very transmisogynist things to me this weekend like she was just stating facts. Not everyone is an ally, even within the LGBTQ+ community.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    is it ok to ask what the bad things were your friend said? also, congrats on meeting a trans elder, hope that's a helpful relationship!

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    I'll summarize by saying it was transmisogyny from a cis lesbian that I have known a very long time. I have no intention of dragging anyone out in public. I will get over it, and spend some time trying to teach her, if I can.

    I am looking forward to working with and being part of a community. This one is strong and has good roots! I went to her to learn about the perils of name and gender marker changes but had a very long discussion about all kinds of life experiences.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    Had the same from a very good friend... I guess it's because queer cis people feel very legitimate to have hot takes on gender roles because of the violence they may have gone through (especially cis lesbians), so they may not fully think through what they are saying. I don't know about your friend, but I feel it can change with time and education.

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