First, for pronouns and gendering. People can do it. They just make excuses. My granddad, who was in his 90s, used to correct other people about my pronouns and stuff at family gatherings. So, there’s no excuse for uhhh I’m old or uuhhh it’s hard. Man cannot remember breakfast, but cared to get my pronouns right.

Second, you look lovely, I’m sorry you had such a rough day. :(