I've never had an anarchist convince me they're anything but a left wing contrarian.
It's so much like the right wing libertarians who think with 2 acres they'll have a homestead to feed themselves forever while still having Internet and their trash picked up.
Being against the state is definitely right. But the aftermath will never be what they imagine. A co-op style military will never hold power enough to maintain anything and will succumb to internal infighting where the most fascist and aggressive wing will seize power and assert likely an even more totalitarian state than whatever neoliberal democracy existed beforehand. You can't be an anarchist without an "archy" to an-.
I think most people just want to be accelerationists. Democracy is slow and corruption is inevitable in any government. Things develop as time moves forward but you'll never get to live under the utopia you want, it's not real.