I wasn't saying anything about myself, I was saying that instantly assuming someone making a joke you don't like is a bad person and feeling justified in attacking them is the opposite of being caring and welcoming.
Black people get called racist, gay folks get called homophobic, cancer survivors get called evil and insensitive all for making jokes about how they've been treated by society. Not even by other people who have been through the same, but by people who haven't lived through it trying to show how righteous they are online by jumping on someone they know nothing about the minute they see something that makes their hair trigger feel justified in doing that.