I endlessly strive to figure out how to have my words mean what they mean, when asking questions. TOO MANY times, suffering this^ scenario.

... And then tone too, finding what this mystery perfect intonation that has them remain in their considerate, critical, creative, compassionate forebrain, and not be thrust to the back of their brain in survival mode. It's just an honest question! ... Ever baffling, the psychology, the astrology, the lunar cycles, the weather, whatever else is going on in their life, to cause these impediments to simple direct communication that means what it means, and not all these sensational pos-hoc subtexts imagined but not intended.

"I asked the question I intended to ask using the words that I intended to use because they have the meaning that I intend them to have. There's no secret subtext to read into, I am asking this question literally with the words coming out of my actual human mouth" And people will still think I'm fucking sarcastic.

Some of the people who react that way aren't bloodsuckers themselves, but have spent enough time around bloodsuckers that they're more careful with new people. It can be hard to tell the difference and it's understandable if you want to avoid the whole situation for your own safety.