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Is there a safe way to say you don't like something? (sh.itjust.works)
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I was talking with someone today and realized I did something I do quite often that might be a trait that gets me into trouble: I boldly state my preference for (or against) something.

In this case, it was being tired of classic rock from a lifetime of overexposure. I think I offended the person, but saved it by clarifying that I'm mostly tired that there is a play list of seemingly 100-songs that have been in continual rotation for 50 years.

Anyway, it occurs to me that I'm just stating my preferences and I personally thing that's fine and normal, but that people get personally offended if you don't like what they like; which makes no sense to me. It's like if you don't like bland food, I'm not going to get offended because I can't handle anything hotter than black pepper. It doesn't ultimately mean anything significant.

Thoughts, ideas, suggestions?

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[–] 5 points 3 months ago (2 children)

In this case, it was being tired of classic rock from a lifetime of overexposure.

I would have said something like "I mean they call it classic for a reason, but I'm burned out on the same 100 songs all the time." That way you're acknowledging that their preference is valid, which is what they really want. Although I actually would have monologued for twenty minutes about Blue Oyster Cult and all their awesome songs that aren't Don't Fear the Reaper and Godzilla.

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  • [–] [S] 4 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    Yeah, i could have talked about the awesome celtic folk influences on Zeppelin, or how Paint it Black is a cool example of Phrygian mode... but, yeah, i honestly don't know if blank stares of confusion are much of an improvement.

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  • [–] 1 point 3 months ago

    My usual go to with music is to bring in the trivia. Specifically with the same classic rock being overplayed, I’ll complain by saying “Again? What about [album cut that nobody knows but is obviously better]? [Band] have so many cool tracks they never play.”

    Fun side note: this is a common complaint my partner and I have. They need to take a year and not play Hotel California, Love Shack, Don’t Stop Believing, etc. Just give them a rest.

    Some years ago, a local classic rock station announced an upcoming “double shot” of Golden Earring. I quipped, “What, are they just going to play Radar Love twice?” AND THEY DID. Single version followed by live version. I guess not even Twilight Zone rates.

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