I was talking with someone today and realized I did something I do quite often that might be a trait that gets me into trouble: I boldly state my preference for (or against) something.

In this case, it was being tired of classic rock from a lifetime of overexposure. I think I offended the person, but saved it by clarifying that I'm mostly tired that there is a play list of seemingly 100-songs that have been in continual rotation for 50 years.

Anyway, it occurs to me that I'm just stating my preferences and I personally thing that's fine and normal, but that people get personally offended if you don't like what they like; which makes no sense to me. It's like if you don't like bland food, I'm not going to get offended because I can't handle anything hotter than black pepper. It doesn't ultimately mean anything significant.

Thoughts, ideas, suggestions?

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[–] [S] 1 point 3 months ago (1 child)

Yeah, I can see in the context of someone talking about how they LOVE classic rock is would be a bad move; in those cases, I keep it to myself, or talk about what I do like about it... but in the absence of knowing their preferences, I blurt out my own, because I feel like that's part of THEM getting to know ME.

And thank you. Understanding that people are really just looking to bond over shared interests is helpful.

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