Hey I would assume we're in the exact same position, kinda assuming we're in the same country judging by your description. I was just very lucky regarding into the queue for the assessment. I was actually initially booked with a psychiatrist to get placed in queue for ADHD/Autism evaluation but gently posed the question on whether he knew anyone who could help me deal with gender dysphoria. Luckily they had multiple people on that clinic who had previously been working in trans healthcare and immediately booked a time (just the next week) with another psychiatrist/doctor.
The next weekend I had about a one hour meeting with her, she was amazing, basically just immediately put me in queue to the gender dysphoria team at the end of the meeting. But on top of this she went out of her way to say that she could take over all of my current in-progress evaluations, aswell as ensure we took proper values during those blood tests to ensure that "everything was fine if i started treating things on my own". She "obviously couldnt recommend it" but also nudged me in the direction of "you seem like youve read up on alot", "most trans people who do it are fine", "it seems way safer to source now that historically", and so on. Also reassured me that going DIY cannot stop you from receiving healthcare once youre get through the queue.
From all the horrors ive heard of how the gender dysphoria evaluation teams and doctors treat patients who has done DIY she really gave me the greatest reassurance a doctor could give. She just really wanted to help and I am so grateful for it ❤️
Not saying this is right for you or what you should be doing. I was just extremely lucky since i was already in the system. But we're both in the queue now, 3 years to go. Atleast... Unless the next government fixes it. Pretty sure I wont be putting my life on hold anymore though. I managed 5 years of work after graduating uni but then i got hit with burnout and i realized i need to do something now, 3 years is crazy. I just wanted to share some positivity in our really garbage system, all of the best wishes to you ❤️