I'd say she already gave him a chance - she said "yes," after all. He was so close, he just needed to use his own brain and put a little personal effort into planning the date. He could've even been honest about not knowing what to do and said something like, "I'd like to have some of your input to make our plans. I was thinking of a movie, but there's a museum not far from me. The park's really nice this time of year, too, if you'd prefer to be outdoors. Do any of those sound good to you? Do you have any ideas to add?"

I mean, that's what I'd do. It's not hard to think of things if you know a person a bit, but if you don't know them well enough yet to know what they'd like, that's okay too! Make it clear you want something you'd both enjoy and turn it into a discussion. No AI is going to know what she likes better than she does, so just go to the source.

And if that's too much effort, then perhaps dating in itself would be too much effort.

I mean, the parameters for a first date are generally pretty simple and low-key. It's generally type-of-food (lunch, dinner, coffee) plus type-of-activity (walk, movie, game-of-some-sort (bowling, axe throwing, whatever)). They're using AI to accomplish a pretty simple task. Which means they're also likely to offload harder tasks as well. I am not your mom, your secretary, your PA, your maid, your cook, your housekeeper, your personal shopper, etc, etc.

It’s not her job to fix him just so he’d dateable.

This, right here, bold and in lights. Women coddle men too damn much.

This reminds me of when I was a teenager, spending time chatting with multiple people simultaneously on MSN Messenger and AIM (man, how did I manage that?)

There were some people who'd just say, "I'm bored." That's it. I never knew how to respond. I usually said something like, "Oh, that sucks." But their conversations never went anywhere besides complaining about boredom, so I usually stopped talking pretty quick. I get the impression they were just looking to have me entertain them somehow, despite putting no effort into making it worth my while. Bruh, I'm having three other conversations about fascinating topics, catching up with a friend living in another continent, and participating in a group RPG, all without anybody whining that they can't think of something to do. Step up or step out, your boredom isn't my problem.

It's also an opportunity to take the time to explain that to someone then. Your points are all valid, don't get me wrong. But what's changed in the world, is everyone just immediately heads for their position or stance, and then feels the need to defend it like it's a blood sport. It's why we are in the state of the world that we are in, and I think it's mainly social media and really bad powerful interests that's done that to us. Only those folks win when we get like this. Explain, rationalize and get to know people, and their side. Appreciate their side and have an honest debate/conversation then. Some people are just pieces of shit, and there's no getting that to them, and I mean maybe that's the case here too even. But figure that out instead of just jumping off a cliff and assuming, right?