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[–] 31 points 5 months ago (26 children)

There's no such thing as a completely free time. There will always be obligations and duties looming over it and limitations what can be done with this small respite.

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  • [–] 10 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    Those obligations just like only exist in people's heads, man.

    Maybe all time is completely free time, and all of that other stuff are things you've decided to let interfere with your free time.

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  • [–] 6 points 5 months ago* (5 children)

    There is no such concept in today's society as a truly free time.

    You can absolutely have free time. You don't owe shit to anyone 24/7. Taking a break - and that counts hygiene, cleaning etc. too - for one day is absolutely alright. Drop the phone, do whatever you want, be it watching YT for 16 hours straight, goin the fuck out to hit the pubs or frolicking in the grass.

    We, sadly, are not able to live like that day to day. But we absolutely can eke out such time for ourselves. If that's what we want to do.

    Small note - "sadly not able to live like that day to day" does not include dropping hygiene fully. You owe it to yourself if not anyone else. :|

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  • [–] 7 points 5 months ago* (4 children)

    But we do owe shit to someone, to the people we live with or even if just for our future selves. Keeping on track with standard daily chores to avoid those piling up, taking care of others, taking others into consideration even. Add in kids and a partner and the list of conditions gets even longer.

    16h of YT, who cooks and cleans and prepares for the next day then?

    Going out to the pub, comes with conditions that by tomorrow I'm sober enough, financial limitations not to blow whole budget on booze and time limitations.

    Frolicking in the grass, season dependant and having acess to an adequate patch of grass or just accepting odd looks from passerbys when doing it in a public space and like a police check up.

    We can keep going, you can give any scenario and i can give conditions that must be met for it and the limitations it has.

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  • [–] 4 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    But we do owe shit to someone, to the people we live with or even if just for our future selves.

    Break the self imposed chains, mate. Kids an partner do limit it, but you absolutely can take a day of - just keep in mind to keep it consensual with your partner and be ready to return the favor in the future. Hell, I see in most advice given by parents to other parents to do exactly that to avoid going crazy.

    But all in all, I am going to be blunt. You sound like someone who is constantly on the lookout for reasons not to live your life. You are not a cog in the machine, you are not essential to the world turning, one day off won't make the whole fall apart. Live your life. Be human.

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

    Yeah the the wider world won't fall apart or even notice if I'm missing and yes there are constantly lots of reasons or conditions to look out for and take into consideration when making decisions.

    But my world will. I am the lynchpin, the stable backbone, that holds it together and makes it function, I'm not good at it, i suck at it, but that's the best i can do. I can't spontaneously take a day off, because then I'd have to do more the next day. If i don't keep up with even the most basic daily task, then no one else will complete those for me.

    Though don't get me wrong, it's not that grim. Despite all the limitations and constrictions, i have managed to eke out some quality hobby time and with some preplanning i can sometimes take a day off, with reasonable limitations.

    And i do appreciate the bluntness, thank you for that.

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    But my world will. I am the lynchpin, the stable backbone, that holds it together and makes it function, I’m not good at it, i suck at it, but that’s the best i can do.

    Though don’t get me wrong, it’s not that grim.

    It does sound like it. You ok, friend?

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

    Oddly yeah and been getting better over the years, of course could be better, but have been significantly worse.

    I've just always had a slightly darker outlook on everything. Surprisingly beneficial when things do actually get worse.

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago

    I dont think its bad to have something to do. There is luxury in not having to do those things urgently or immediately but I personally get kinda in the dumps when I dont have anything I could be doing to progress/enrich myself, my wife, or my friends.

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  • [–] -2 points 5 months ago (13 children)

    Untrue. You can remove all obligations and duties, besides laundry and dishes.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago* (10 children)

    But those exclusion already mean that some obligations still remain.

    But even excluding those, feeding oneself, , sleep, maintaining basic hygiene and physical/mental health and whatever method is used to achieve those are all obligations.

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago (9 children)

    Oh please, sleep and taking a shower doesn’t count as obligation. If you want to be pedantic, breathing is also pretty inconvenient. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄💋

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago (8 children)

    Why don't those count? I'm not sleeping because i want to, I'm sleeping because im forced to.
    That does sound like an obligation.

    Basic showering, yeah sure it doesn't feel good to be covered in dried sweat, but shaving on the other can be rather annoying with no benefit.

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  • [–] 0 points 5 months ago (7 children)

    Grow a beard. Or, if it’s your legs—stop.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago (6 children)

    Already growing it, kinda odd patchy thing that's supposed to be beard, but there's no point in shaving it either. Only shaving it when i have to attend some polite events.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago (3 children)

    You can be polite and have a beard.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago (2 children)

    Not really, it doesn't grow well. It's patchy, sparse and never grows long. So I can't pull off a decent beard that could be worn on polite events.

    Though luckily those are rare enough, maybe a handful of times a hear on busier years.

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