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Before/beforer (quokk.au)
submitted 6 months ago by to c/lemmyshitpost@lemmy.world
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[–] 12 points 6 months ago* (4 children)

Strongly suggest not telling anyone when you make such a decision. Keep it to yourself, work privately, and keep going until someone else comments (and then keep going anyway).

Telling people gets their praise, then you have a false sense of accomplishment and motivation gets sapped.

Completely projecting. Maybe you're already doing this, what do I know? But maybe it's a helpful perspective, so I said it anyway.

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago* (2 children)

    It's the other way around for me. Telling people holds me accountable and adds some external motivation.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    Yeah this is often advice given for any love changes (weight loss, stopping smoking etc) as getting support from others is usually really helpful plus it gives more accountability.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    There's definitely an important distinction between mentioning it in casual conversation vs getting a workout buddy / nutritionist / whatever to genuinely hold you accountable and support you.

    I'm sure it also depends on personality. I used to assert it held me accountable too, but over the years I've had to admit that was delusion.

    Apparently I'm very motivated by positive feedback and need to withhold it until I've actually done the thing.

    Certainly not universal. We all gotta find our own way

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