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[–] 49 points 6 months ago (37 children)

Who'd want a girlfriend with a porn addiction anyway? Like addiction is a self destructive vice. I'm not saying someone couldn't love you regardless but who'd specifically seek it out? That's just chaser behaviour.

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  • [–] 76 points 6 months ago (7 children)

    They probably think porn addict = always horny = many sex

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  • [+] -6 points 6 months ago (6 children)

    I think you might be giving them too much credit. There's also the aspect of addict = disability = unemployed/financially insecure = easier to entrap into a relationship she can't leave

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  • [–] 33 points 6 months ago

    Yeah, I 100% guarantee they aren't thinking of that at all. It's really clear both from the culture at large, and the contents of the message by "porn addict" they mean "horny often and into sex", and by "they don't want you" they mean you aren't up to the standards of enjoyment they get from the porn they like.

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  • [–] 7 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    Are we talking clinical addiction? as damaging as having a partner with a gambling addiction.

    or metaphorical addiction? as in hypersexual who watches porn.

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  • [–] 0 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    Okay, hypersexuality is itself a damaging addiction. Like I'm not sure its a clinical term but I've heard internet stories of women who in the moment aren't able to say no, but find themselves drowning in self loathing because they're too… for want of a better term addicted to sex to set healthy boundries. They don't even necessarily enjoy themselves. They just can't control themselves in much the same way a heroin addict can't.

    And yeah, if we're talking addiction I'm taking the word at face value and assuming you mean clinical addiction. I'm guessing the hypothetical guy the meme refers to is expecting the "hypersexual who watches porn" as you put it, though I'd interpret that sentence very differently to how you probably meant it as I explained above.

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  • [–] 37 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (7 children)

    I am probably just old enough that this kinda 'makes sense', but back when I was growing up:

    1. Porn 'addiction' was not at all a prevalent thing, in the true sense of an actual addiction. It was much, muuch more common that if you just had or looked at any porn, maybe a couple times a week or month, not to the point that it was actively interfering with your life... this was decried and stigmatized as an addiction. If you were a teen and had a porno mag, and didn't throw it out after your parent found it, fairly good chance you are now a 'porn addict', time for an intervention from the local pastor.

    2. Because of these more prudish, second wave of Satanic Panic type norms in the 90s and 00s... a gf with a 'porn addiction' would again likely not have a literal addicition, it would probably indicate just that they were an introvert, who is kinky/kink-curious, or even just sex-curious, had a manga that had some nudity in it, where nudity is potentially 'her dress is too low cut' or 'a form fitting body suit is functionally nudity'.

    Like, if somebody was being called a 'porn addict' in the 90s/00s... fairly good chance that just there was a story going around that they had watched or viewed porn once, and been caught.

    Not saying theres 0 chance they were an actual addict, nor that just generally 'seeking a porn addict gf' would be totally non problematic...

    But back when Pokemon was evil because it 'teaches evolution' and Harry Potter was Satanic because 'Witchcraft!' ... yeah, porn consumption/viewing was often extremely overblown and pathologized/demonized.

    And I do literally mean demonized, in some cases. 'The demon of lust has possessed you', type of shit.

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  • [–] [S] 19 points 6 months ago (4 children)

    you overthinked, therefore you overamed 😉

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  • [–] 20 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    Am autistic, overthinking is what I do.

    Thus: overamed?

    over... armed?

    over... abed?

    over ... aimed?

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    Wait, Pokemon wasn’t evil because it had ghosts and shit?

    I guess what one views as normal/healthy porn consumption differs. I wouldn’t blink an eye if somebody watched porn 1h every day.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

    At least in my personal experience, and the clips I've seen of, and stories that made it into a newspaper of evangelical Christians... it was almost always that Pokemon evolved.

    Yes, some of them connected it to other kinds of... pagan spiritual practices, which they mostly made up in their own heads based on movies and that one time they read a book.

    But yeah, same, 1hr of porn a day, for like, an adult?

    Grab that bag, earn that nut, rofl.

    EDIT: Also, Deadmau5 was not yet a thing when Pokemon hit the scene. =P

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  • [–] 9 points 6 months ago (12 children)

    We talking clinical addiction? or like hypersexual who likes porn?

    Because both are very different concepts. Many guys think they want a hypersexual horny partner only to learn how mediocre their stamina and libido is.

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago* (11 children)

    So I did actually 'date' a legitimate nymphomaniac once.

    I could keep up, but the deal was no catching feelings, just casual fwb... and I eventually caught feelings, so it was basically just a very wild summer and autumn.

    But uh yeah, I told a few friends about her uh, appetite, in fairly broad terms... half of them didn't believe me, that either she was that 'demanding', or that I had that much 'spare time', or both.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago (6 children)

    However it ended sounds like it was a fun summer,

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago (5 children)

    Long story short, I was heartbroken, but in a bittersweet way, I truly wasn't angry, she'd made the rules clear, and I understood.

    Oh and we did have an 8 hour pb+j human sex sandwich sesh, that I am literally incapable of forgetting, so, that's a plus, lol.

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago (4 children)

    What does pb+j human sex sandwich means?

    I gotta know

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago* (3 children)

    It means we put down some shower curtains, slathered ourselves, one in peanut butter, one in jelly, and got to it.

    (We did try to avoid getting it in hair, didn't get it uh, anywhere internal, to avoid potential infections, cleaned things off before trying any insertions. we were prepared lol)

    She told me she'd been dared by one of her friends, that if she didn't do it before they did, they get to slap her, vice versa.

    ... Not 100% sure if this was a lie on her part, also, didn't care either way, but i guess theoretically, i was helping a poor lass avoid a nasty slap.

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    That was more literal than I thought. did you get hungry half way and has some jelly and pb as a snack?

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago* (1 child)

    Oh, we were very hungry, all the time, you could say we were grazing the whole time, across the entire range, hahaha!

    Like, I may sound like I'm joking, but... sugar, protein, in pb and j?

    You gotta be replenishing calories to go for 8 straight hours. We literally set aside an entire day, and a recovery day, had to match up our schedules

    Lots of water on hand as well.

    ... This is why half the people I told about this, about her, just did not believe me.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    That sucks, so what if you catch feelings along the way? Two for one!

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    Well, you could say she knew the rules, and so did I.

    It was an overall very good experience, I was sad for a while, but in a 'Ramble On' sort of way, bittersweet. I always knew it wouldn't be forever, that was clear from the start.

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  • [–] 9 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    Porn addiction isn't even real, it's just a thing Christians invented to groom young men with sexual shame

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago*

    I'd say that it is real, it can get to a point where it is actively directly destroying other parts of your life, but... that's very, very rare.

    It certainly is much more common that its basically just a pathologizing label hurled about by puritans or bullies... tons of research exists showing that regular masturbation is not only normal but is also good for you in many ways.

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  • [–] 0 points 6 months ago

    Christians have a tendency to pathologise anything that makes people happy, but that does not mean people can't take things that are safe in moderation too far. Most people drink alcohol responsibly. Some people don't and alcohol addiction is very much a thing

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