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[–] 45 points 7 months ago (9 children)

My wife complains about this to me. But in my defense, I only ask if I don't really want to go myself. "Let's go to the court house together" vs "you can come if you want". I don't want to subject her to the same shit I'd rather not be doing.

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  • [–] 36 points 7 months ago (8 children)

    I've found myself in similar situations with past partners. I've found that "I need to go to x place. I'd love to have your company if you're not busy" is a good way to let them know that I want them there with me, but there's no obligation if they don't want to come.

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  • [–] 11 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    Thanks! I'll start using this, I'm surprised it's such a common thing, I tought I was just socially inept or something

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  • [–] 9 points 7 months ago (3 children)

    see to me that sounds like guilting them into coming.

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