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[–] 24 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I used to say things like, "I'm straight but" whatever. This was about 30 years ago, and I just didn't know what to do with the idea of gay men, so I would occasionally say things to virtue signal that I was okay with it.

But it turns out that I was just overcompensating and dealing with a bit of "main character" complex. I really didn't need to say or do anything overt to be accepting of gay people.

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  • [–] 15 points 7 months ago

    Inversely, there's "I'm bi, but..." To point out shit that can just be platonic that people keep trying to romanticize.

    Like, why can't I complement a friend on their good fashion sense without people assuming there's some attraction there? It's bullshit

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  • I've only ever felt the need to say "I'm not gay" in situations where I thought I might be subject to negative consequences (like violence or getting fired) for being gay, or in situations where I was interested in women and didn't want to be mistaken for being gay. It's a combination of cowardice and loserdom.

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