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What do y'all think about the bi-lesbian identity? (static.wikitide.net)
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[–] 22 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (2 children)

I am a lesbian and I really have no desire to gatekeep what labels someone uses to describe their sexuality. It's up to other people to convey their preferred labels to me for the purposes of clear communication. But ultimately it doesn't really affect me at all.

I think prioritizing the rigidity of definitions is the business of fascists. Words are not sacred. We should be the end all be all for the labels we use for our gender and sexuality, no one else should get to decide them for us.

If the term bi-lesbian has meaning to you, that's alright. I'm glad you've found a label that feels right to you.

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  • [–] 9 points 7 months ago* (1 child)

    I feel like labels make sense to point someone in a general direction. If I'm interested enough in them that specificity is worthwhile, I'll explain myself, or like if their specific sexuality is relevant to a conversation, I'm down to learn more, but otherwise I just do not have it in me to memorize 60 different flags for niche levels of attraction. Get me in the ballpark and it's probably close enough.

    It's why I like 'hetero/homoflexible' despite some people being against it. "Oh, you're mostly straight or mostly gay? Cool, I gotchu."

    Edit: Oh my god, I'm an idiot. I meant to post in response to OP, but I got so distracted, because I literally tried to grab the username LadyAutumn when I signed up. 🤭 You have amazing taste.

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  • [–] 7 points 7 months ago

    lol, I would have no clue what hetero- or homo-flexible would mean, but TIL - thanks 😅

    I feel like labels make sense to point someone in a general direction. If I’m interested enough in them that specificity is worthwhile, I’ll explain myself, or like if their specific sexuality is relevant to a conversation, I’m down to learn more, but otherwise I just do not have it in me to memorize 60 different flags for niche levels of attraction. Get me in the ballpark and it’s probably close enough.

    +1 for this - I'm usually using the label to give someone a quick gist of my sexuality

    my sexuality doesn't need to be hyper-specific, but I completely support exploring sexuality and making our language more rich

    I've used labels in the past like pansexual and it mostly added confusion rather than clarified anything, esp. once its meaning started to overlap with different and contradicting things, and also once I really introspected enough I realized I'm not really pansexual. Maybe it's good to have a label like pansexual, maybe it's good that it generates interesting conversations. But mostly I just didn't find it useful, so now I have reverted to saying I'm bi, a lesbian, or usually just not disclosing my sexuality.

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