You can dance in circles all you want, it's not going to change anything. You're taking concepts that have nothing to do with fascism and attributing them to it regardless. Saying patriotism a gateway drug to fascism is like saying “community is a gateway drug to cults.” Just because both involve belonging and loyalty doesn’t mean one inevitably leads to the other. It’s the distortion, not the foundation, that creates danger.
Trying to twist something that's normal, healthy, and even necessary like patriotism or community into something toxic, shows that you're disingenuous, which is ironic considering your spiel here. Just because you say something is poisonous that doesn't that it is.