Would you ever straight up say to your son, ‘You are a disappointment’?

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[–] 30 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Yesterday I said to my son "I'm disappointed in you for not catching that fish" (he came so close to catching his target prize fish but it got away).

I felt pretty bad and didn't mean it one bit, I just said it the wrong way around because i was exhausted. Then I spent the next five minutes explaining that I'm absolutely not disappointed in him and that he is an awesome fisherman and that what i really meant to say was that I was disappointed FOR him that he didn't catch the fish that he had been trying so hard to catch for months.

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago

    I feel like this would be my mindset. Like you're bummed out or disappointed that a certain action wasn't successful, but you're not upset with the person just the event in general.

    My kids are still quite young but I've already had to catch myself mid-sentence and reword or rethink how I say certain things. It's hard because at work we're all cursing like sailors but at home we don't want anything like that around the kids...to the best of our abilities.

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