No, and this comment annoyed me.

Pick your weapon, we meet at dawn.

(/s in case a moderator can't read cues)

Yes, there are people that can't do that.

I know someone who received a phone call in the morning to ask if they were actually cool with their husband taking a trip across the country with him. Ruined her whole day. Couldnt go to work because she didnt want to cry in the office. She knew about the vacation and was fine with it. Still not entirely sure how that ruined her day, but it did.

“Black and white” thinking is something that adhd and asd people struggle with constantly. It may not be a choice.

Usually when someone is contacting someone else while working on making peace with their feelings about that person's behavior, it's because they want to have a discussion with them about it. It's unusual for it to be a one-and-done text without expectation of a response. But if a response is expected, it's then unusual to follow up that text with another concerning a completely different topic. If I were in this situation, I'd find it hard to begin a discussion about her annoyance, which is valid and deserves to be explored, when the current topic is now a winery van.