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What are your thoughts on "Don't Chase, Attract."? (discuss.online)
submitted 10 months ago by to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
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Edit: 'Chase' in this phrase is not meant to be taken literally.

For some extra information on the quote: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassionate-feminism/202504/the-psychology-of-dont-chase-attract

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[–] 2 points 10 months ago* (3 children)

In the mating game it's up to the guys to advertise interest and the gals to make a choice.

Women are pros at dealing with endless expressions of interest, they rarely know how to show/express it. Just be respectful and let go of expectations going in.

Don't let the endless whining seen on social media deter you, it's mostly lies.

If men bore the babies and women had to do the mating advertising, the human race would be extinct.

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  • [–] 1 point 10 months ago (2 children)

    seriously, attract don't chase is how you stay alone.

    love is the most common resource on earth, for anyone even remotely healthy/attractive as a partner. repeated exposure, common interests/experiences to bond over, and a willingness to learn/grow is all you need to fall for anyone.

    pursue, but just take rejection like an adult. no means no etc. first couple times sting but it gets easier with time/practice

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 10 months ago (1 child)

    Then how do you give proper signals that you like someone?

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  • [–] 1 point 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

    ...persue/chase em... nobody will know your interested in them unless you make some effort to show that interest, humans can't read minds.

    so approach with light flirting, presumably around whatever attracted you to them in the first place. then ask out to neutral/low-commitment social event, like a concert or something.

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