I think we have a right to be judged fairly and not because of our gender or sex. But that's a semantic point and I don't want to quibble.

I do want to push back on excusing from women their responsibility for the society we live in, however. (Or just underline an implied point we may both share.)

Nearly every man I know values the opinions of women at least as much as those of other men. When a boy sees his mom belittle his father for being insufficiently manly, he hears a lesson that sexism is bad. When a man tells a boy that the way to get a girlfriend is to be a sexist jerk the boy listens, not because he cares about the con artist, but because he's desperate for a girl who cares about him.

Men have a lot of the big levers of power, and do bear a proportionate share of our own blame, but we shouldn't excuse women who use the power they have in ways that make our society worse.

We're all in this together, and all need to do what we can to make the world we pass to our children better than the one our parents passed on to us.

I think we agree and agree.

I was careful not to use the word "ignore", because the answer to anyone sharing how they were harmed by sexism should never be anything less than "that's horrible and I hate that it happened to you."

Sexist women who claim to be "feminist" and yet feel free to denigrate men or dismiss their perspective are terrible advocates for the cause.

(Not "their" cause, because sexism is an evil that harms everyone and everyone should be against it.)

(And sealions who claim to be "men's rights activists" but just want to be sexist anti-feminist trolls are at least as bad.)

Men winning custody? Surely you jest

why do the men win custody almost every fucking time they try

I know where you're getting this from. Just so you know, it comes from a deliberately misleading interpretation of "winning custody", where if a man seeks any amount of custody, and is granted anything more than nothing at all, it's 'counted' by those spreading this propaganda, a "win". This is as opposed to what any reasonable person would call a "win", which is when one gets at least as much custody as one seeks. That's like calling me a "lottery winner" because I won $5 after spending $1000 on tickets, lol.

If the mother of my child is abusive and I try to get full custody, but the judge gives me every other week supervised visitation, that is obviously not a "win", but it is, by the definition of the misandrists who propagated that particular piece of bullshit around.

Like i said, the issue varys wildly by state or court.

Although part of the reason why men who ask for custody get it more than 50% of the time is that very often they know (or believe) they don't have a chance and so don't fight.