that's exactly why i left my communities/hobby activities. I can't live my life that way. It's miserable being around miserable people who want to be offended by everything. like you want to play a board game, and there are only male/female pieces and the person goes on a rant about how awful and cruel and abusive you are for choosing that game because it's not 'gender inclusive'. it's a fucking game. it's not reality. it's supposed to be simple. just like the pieces only come in one color and not 1000s.

In a personal relationship it's called 'walking on eggshells' and it's a form of emotional abuse. I don't want to hang out with emotionally abusive people. The irrational insane abusive people should be shunned, not the people who are well-intentioned, but for some reason we've inverted this now and the insane abusive people get catered to as being far more valuable and special than the non abusive people.