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Honestly that should have been a guaranteed one (lemmy.dbzer0.com)
submitted 1 year ago by to c/adhd@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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[+] -10 points 1 year ago (7 children)

No I mean.... you're right. A lot of people are now claiming ADHD prevents them from being anything but a leech. It's disrespectful as fuck to people with ADHD who bust their ass overcoming their disability. Its almost always from someone "self-diagnosed" also.

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  • [–] 21 points 1 year ago (5 children)

    For some (like me) it's less "overcome" and more "manage to the best of my ability".

    Sometimes I will forget something important. I forget interactions with people the next fucking day. I sit and scroll for hours on my phone and scream internally to get the fuck up and just not be able to.

    Certain things help. But you can definitely be more then a leach.

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  • [+] -6 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    Yep, but you're trying. No one with actual ADHD is ever going to fully overcome it. I'm referring to the people who magically have crippling ADHD when it comes to being responsible with anything (Chores, a job, etc.) But if its something they want to do they're magically fine. They can listen to instructions and follow them keenly when their family is taking them paragliding, but they couldn't wash a dish for 8 seconds.

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  • [–] 9 points 1 year ago

    My understanding is that this is because it's a dopamine problem. Some (many?) ADHD folks are wired such that they only function when their brains' reward centers are getting pinged. That's why they struggle with chores or bills or other 'adult' tasks that require focus but no feeling of reward or satisfaction until much later. According to my partner it's a source of a tremendous amount of guilt and self-esteem problems.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago

    You don't "overcome" your disability, you just get insults, especially against your character. You get accused of trying to slack, accused of playing dumb, Faking, and labor for very little, when all it would take is for employers to get out of your way, let you use your coping tools, notes, videos, and not try to force you to do things the way they do because they can, and it is somehow "unfair" not to.

    I can and would just do my fucking job, if someone didn't fucking yell at the top of their lungs, because I didn't do a given task in order (still finished it).

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