If you have a friend to rely on to keep pinging the doc and cc-ing you, that was what finally got me there in the end. The specialist in my town was (you guessed it) incredibly ADHD themselves and in dire need of a personal assistant.

It took me two years to find someone that not only would take Medicaid, but also would do the diagnostic testing in a way that would not cost me anything out of pocket.

After months of chasing down "in network" therapists and psychiatrists, leaving voicemails and getting ghosted, do you know how I found them? They were a customer I installed hardware for. I casually asked if they took Medicaid and could do ADHD diagnostic testing and the on site contact was like "Yeah, no problem. And we know how to code it so Medicaid will pay for it. Just fill out the online form and we'll get you started that week."

I'm stuck at the "I don't have £1500 to pay for ADHD treatment guess I'll just die" level xD

Ugh, yeah. Same. But I also have social anxiety on top of it so I couldn't possibly keep bugging them until I get an appointment lmao I know I need to and that's what I should do but brain says no. Such goofy shit sometimes

My boss is a slave-driving asshole that doesn't pay me enough. Accounting has their head so far up their ass they can see their own duodenum. Scheduling thinks I can be in two places at once, and purchasing seems to think materials magically appear on site the day they're ordered

I am, of course, self employed, and do all of the administrative tasks myself

I didn't get diagnosed until I was in my mid-forties. I'm from the same generation of "drugs for kids are bad, just let them be kids", with an added sprinkling of "my kid can't have ADHD, he's too smart".

Dude•, I fully endorse behavioral changes to mitigate ADHD behaviors, but they only go so far. As my address levels increased with age, my coping methods gradually fell apart, and then very suddenly collapsed. I spent the last three months drinking shit-loads of coffee and spending all of my office time playing FTL instead of taking care of essential administrative tasks. It was getting bad.

The point is, therapy and behavioral changes are good. But they have limits. Don't rule out medication, just trust the doctor to know their shit. Also advocate for yourself if the doctor is too cautious. Mine was worried about stimulants and my blood pressure at my age and (lack of) cardiovascular health. It hasn't been a problem at all

eta: •dude is officially a gender neutral term btw

e^2: i have been told the above is more harmful than not. I'm not too proud to admit I have more to learn

JFC, this is an ADHD thing? I manage paying personal bills okay (though e-bills and automation are amazing), but sending an invoice or checking if payment has been made? What?

I just always thought my spoiled ass doesn't really understand the value of money; that only the feeling of responsibility (or when my banking account strangely runs out, through no fault of my own) makes me pay any attention to it.