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How couples meet in the US (lemmy.ml)
submitted 1 year ago by to c/usa@lemmy.ml
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This is really a monumental societal change.

3rd spaces are nearly completely destroyed, and online seems to be the main option for ppl now.

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[–] 8 points 1 year ago (8 children)

This is the most upsetting graph ive seen in many years... and this is why so many people are single. Its the reason I am single. I absolutely abhor "online dating". The couple times I did try it it was regrettable, and I dont want to do that again. Lord, help me find a suitable wife.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (7 children)

    Yeah those apps are predatory. Good call.

    I'm praying for you there, friend. This is really sad seeing what's happening to human relationships. It's very INhuman.

    The best thing you can do is be your best, genuine self, and go engage in what's left that other people do together. Meetups, volunteering, interests, hobbies, social book clubs, whatever.

    Don't think about "dating" like "trying to score a wife." Be your very best self and find a person with a mutual interest in being very best friends forever with you, and then see if romance can bloom from there.

    An innocent shared coffee laughing about favorite movies is WAY less pressure than some formal "date" where two strangers dance around awkwardly feeling each other out for "flags" and sidestepping "deal breakers".

    That's my 2¢ anyway. I hope you find genuine connection. :)

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (6 children)

    Love it! Thanks for helping me be positive :).

    Ive been very unstressed about find a wife my whole life, but I am 41 now and I think I need to put a little pressure on myself. :)

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (5 children)

    Maybe by thinking of women as people and not wives? Hooking up & hanging out with people until one sticks has been the only way for me. Though to be fair the only two really good jobs I've had were temp to perm too.

    Approach it like fun, see what happens.

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  • [–] -1 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    Maybe by thinking of women as people and not wives?

    Lol omg... this is priceless. Hypersensitivity is what this is. Somehow you have assumed "wife" to be offensive?

    You have to be a young guy trying to white night this crap like this. I blame the public school system...

    Sorry...

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago* (3 children)

    I am a woman, a mom, a wife, and certainly not young. But you can't just go around trying to immediately wife people. You have to meet as individuals and see how it goes, and it's husband and wife, not "find me a wife" or "find me a husband". You can't know that until you know the person as a person.

    (And by all means, continue blaming factors other than yourself, when the only one you actually have some control over is yourself.)

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  • [–] -1 points 1 year ago* (2 children)

    Im sorry, I didn't mean to be a rude ass hat. First, who hurt you? You're making a whole mess load of assumptions. Im not blaming any other factors, again, I just haven't felt any pressure to get married really, so far. Im not "immediately trying to wife" anyone... save your lecture for someone that might need it, and stop assuming crap.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (1 child)

    It was just the "send me a suitable wife" comment, and your post history, my sincere apologies if somehow I have misconstrued all of that.

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  • [–] -1 points 1 year ago

    I think i hear it now, its the "suitable" part I think. If I made a revision it might say: Lord, help me find a women whom I can deeply connect with on many levels, mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually. A women whom I can cherish and admire and desire, respect and support....

    So maybe "suitable" was the wrong word...

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