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Is 16 and 19 really that bad? (lemmings.world)
submitted 1 year ago by to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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So, my good friend (18m) had a falling out with his ex (19m) because the ex bullied him and also because he is apparently dating a 16f, so my friend thinks he is a pedophile for obvious reasons (adult + minor).

I can see why this would be considered bad but also, when I turn 16, my girlfriend will be 19 too, as I am currently a young sophomore who is about 3 years younger than her girlfriend, a senior.

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[–] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

13 and 19 is really bad so the broad statement “it’s ok for teens to date teens” definitely needs a big asterisk. 16 and 19 is probably the biggest gap that’s not unequivocally creepy but can still be bad considering how different people develop

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (1 child)

    it doesn't seem weird as an adult to think about that gap, but that's a freshman and a senior and yes that is weird

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago

    A 30yr old and a 35yr old are basically in the same place in life, they have both had many similar experiences, and have fully matured.

    Even between 17 and 19 there are potentials for vastly different levels of maturity and different experiences like one can be in high school and the other in college or working

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