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[–] 2 points 1 year ago (7 children)
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    So please explain to me why it is bad for me to say that I do not want to lose one of those three?

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (5 children)

    It's not. It is just short-sighted and misses the point of relationships.

    Jobs change, tomorrow it might be you unemployed. A relationship is about working together as a team, over time and through changes, and about the valuable experience of sharing those experiences with another person.

    Otherwise why bother. Just get a hooker or find causal sex partners.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (4 children)

    Yeah, times changed and things change. And yes, relationships are good. But why would I date somebody who makes so little money that they can barely feed themselves? All that does at the end of the day means I’m basically Support them and not really be able to add to my retirement fund or any of the other things that I’ve listed.

    Maybe in your country, the government supports you when you stop working. In the United States they don’t. You don’t have enough money to retire on and you are well and truly fucked. Please don’t even try to say oh but you have Social Security, Social Security with the way it’s going probably won’t exist by the time I go to retire. Even if it does exist, it’ll have so little money in there would be pointless anyways.

    Here’s a good question for you. Would you date somebody if you knew that you’re dating them would cause them serious financial hardship.?

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    So you would be okay with being dumped the moment you lose your job or don't make 'enough' money for the other person's tastes? Happy even, for the other person?

    It's just incredibly naive to believe that relationships work like that. What is going to make it or break it is the every day interaction and how you relate to each other as humans. Not only what you are but what you can be, jobs come and go. You are selecting a person to share your days, your time outside work.

    But sure, I hope your 'if you're poor you're not enough for me' sigma grindset mentality finds you happiness.

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