Have y'all taken any trips there? Honestly just living out of an airbnb, taking the chance to go to the grocery store and cook at home a few times, (like you are "living that life" in the smallest sense) and taking day trips with the trains is what eased my family's fears.

Arriving in a beautiful airport, walking downstairs to the train station, learning that the paper train tickets can be tapped to let you in (and later just the credit card), then being at our bnb in like half an hour without stepping foot in a car was so magical to us. Then we stopped by the grocery store (surprised at there being 2 within a 5 min walk), and we noticed that the prices of everything was a fraction of what we normally pay, but also tastier and healthier. Then compounded over the next few days with day trips to other cities, seeing actual historic places (unlike the US, at least the west), and seeing that everywhere just has... a better quality of life-- Strictly speaking from locality to parks, grocers, cafes, and the very low risk freedom of movement without a car.

It also helps that their english literacy rate is equal or better than the US... I'm learning dutch so I can assimilate better when I move, and you'd probably need to know it for many jobs, but luckily it isn't too difficult to learn. Hardest part is finding resources imo, but the discord for learning dutch has weekly practice sessions.

I'm in the same boat. Our while lives we talked about moving overseas. Once we reached the point where we could do it, my wife didn't want to.

I hate to say but, if things got bad enough, I might just go without her.