Mine is significantly larger.

I'm a straight man, I've dated mostly straight women with some allegedly bi women in there. The bi chicks didn't really behave much different to the straight chicks.

Initiating. I've seen women remind themselves and each other not to initiate. Chanting "We attract, not chase" like a mantra. Not initiating, not approaching, not asking out seems to be something women actively and consciously want to do. I've had female friends over the years that have said to me "There's this guy I really like but he won't ask me out" and I say "You ask him out" and it's "NO OMG I could never! What if he says no?!" Because rejection is for men.

Date planning. I was once SCREAMED AT for asking a woman where she wanted to eat. A girl I was in a long-term relationship with, who said "I love you" to me, SCREAMED IN MY FACE for having the utter audacity to ask what she was hungry for. Sorry for an attempt to be considerate, I'll make sure that never happens again.

Transportation. Very early on, there's the "I don't want to reveal my home to you in case you're dangerous" thing at which you'll meet somewhere, and she'll always be late because showing up on time is a sign of respect. Women are not bashful about demanding a man has a car, a few of them are bashful about demanding it's a nice car she can show off to her friends. Most of the time when traveling together, he will drive his car, because it's his resources being spent. Plus it frees her up to talk on her phone.

Opening doors, especially car doors. Oh for about 20 years it was "HOW DARE YOU open a door for me?! Are you trying to say I'm an invalid? That I can't open a door because I'm a woman?" So men stopped, and now it's "What happened to chivalry? I want a man that opens doors for me." What women want is defined as what men aren't doing. Start doing it, they'll stop wanting it.

On carrying her. Somewhat sarcastic here, but straight chicks do seem to like the ending of Officer and a Gentleman. I can lift a person of my own size, but I can't carry them far in a bridal carry, and women tend not to like being thrown over a shoulder.

On undressing. Most of the women I've dated, from many different backgrounds, of a range of ages, would lie down fully clothed and expect to be undressed by me. One told me she liked it. Thing is, ALL of them lay down fully clothed and then want to be stripped, which is difficult to do. We'd walk into the bedroom together, I'd start kissing standing up, she pulls herself out of my arms and lays down in the bed fully clothed. So that I get to lift her ass to pull her pants off, so that I get to lift her back to unhook her bra. Next one that does that is getting cut out of her clothes with paramedic's shears. And she won't make a move to undress me, it's back to initiating. She's passive, remember? Can't let on that you want it, can never let your partner know you're attracted to them. We must act begrudging.

On condoms. There's a stereotype that men don't like wearing condoms because they don't feel as good, that women want men to wear condoms for safety because she bears the brunt of the physical risk. In my experience, women hate condoms. They want NOTHING to do with choosing them and do NOT want to touch them, like a condom fresh from the package is a revolting item. A condom is most comfortably worn and works the best when applied to and worn on a fully erect penis, so ladies, here's what you do: Make the putting condom on moment as awkward as you can by being really weird about it. That'll definitely help him want to wear it.

Sex and orgasms. There's definitely an attitude that between men and women, sex is something that men do to, or extract from, women. Women often express dislike for being on top or the active partner. Some women seem to think sex is lying there and letting him use you. And, most on point to the OP topic, men hear "size doesn't matter" and then are shamed for having a little dick, we're told don't be emasculated by my sex toys then shamed for not making you cum. There's no truth, only manipulation.

Uhhhh… feeling a little rapey at this point.

Yeah sex with women always does. For all the bitching about consent you hear, they hate actually communicating it in the moment. Best case scenario, it's that passivity again; she wants to "be taken." When's the last time you heard a woman describe a sexual fantasy that involved an exchange of permission?

Also, are you asking the women about these things or are you getting mad that they won’t tell you on their own?

Both. I've asked a lot of women questions they evade or outright ignore. Especially about sex. Also, FUCK YES I'm mad they won't communicate on their own. Women are people, right? Sometimes I'm not so sure, we can't ever hold them to "people" level standards of accountability, like saying what your intentions are in a relationship under her own power.

And there it is. Everything is always a man's fault. I guess women's strategy is, you can't be accountable for your actions if you never actually do anything.

Also, if a man wants a woman for sex, he's shallow. If a woman wants a man for sex, she's not shallow?