That's a rough one. Even when they've lived a full life it's never easy to say goodbye.

He was 15, and he was loved and loving all the way upto the end.

As cat lives go, he had a good one. Definitely feeling his absence

I'm showing my age, but I read this and thought "wait, did Megadeath have a different guitarist at some point", but no you're talking about a band I hadn't heard of.

Let us know when you’ve nailed Kill the King (imo Blackmore at the top of his game).

I'm sorry about your cat 😩 how old was he/she?

Taken about a week before be died. He pulled my robe down to use as a bed.

The cat died, I gotta deal with a man child having a tantrum, I spent 90 minutes on the phone listening to a colleague who was upset, and I gotta go tackle the boss next week even though I know he'll never admit he's wrong.

Overall I think the cat thing is the reason for my low mood.

Fingers crossed for a better week next time.

Absolute lad. I'm going to knock this degree course shit on the head (hopefully) in a few months, and I've always fancied a bass guitar.

Might invest in some entry level Squire love and a cheap amp and start annoying the neighbours.

At the end of the day, it's their fault if they don't like Fleetwood Mac isn't it.

Yeah, you have to play and build up calluses on the tips of your fingers.

Thanks for the welcome!

I get that. I occillate pretty wildly between anxious I'm ballsing up and head-pounding rage at my own ineptitude whenever I DIY solo. Thankfully, I have a mega-competent spouse.

We're actually playing Abiotic Factor; hadn't heard of it before my friend recommended it and now it's started a ritual of once a week gaming sesh and chatting about life. It's basically free therapy.

What's the solution? Just have to wait for your skin to get tougher?

I've been picking up the electric guitar for the past few weeks and I've been really enjoying it, but christ are my fingers sore 😭. The bottom three strings are like pressing my fingers into cheese cutter wire.

First, welcome to feddit.uk!

If you're enjoying it then it doesn't matter how bad you are, other than it makes you happy! I'm awful at DIY, it actually makes me anxious.

What games are you playing?

Pretty damn good, actually.

Making some progress on DIY (of which I am terrible). Made a habit of getting up early to do some project work (building 3D models - of which I am terrible). Keeping in touch with buds through PC gaming (of which I am terrible)

Just generally enjoying all those things I'm bad at. Can't imagine how buzzed I'll be if I get any good at them.

That's great thanks so much 😊

You don't necessarily have to make a profile. It's just a section of the site to search for jobs but you need to be logged in. Some of them you can apply using your linkedin profile info (I think it'll ask for anything missing) but mostly it just links to the companies own website advert where you apply directly.

Be careful with the adverts by recruiters. I have a specialist job and have actually had more luck with recruiters, which I found through these adverts but it depends on the industry. I still found some lied to get contacts or sent me stuff completely different to what I asked for.

I have to say, companies take the piss now so be prepared to be annoyed. You have to set up an account for each company, upload your CV but they still ask for all the info to be put in manually, each slightly differently. Half of them use Workday but you still need separate accounts for each, and they have slightly different questions.

Then they don't bother to respond unless they want to progress or sometimes you get an automatic rejection after several months. You have no idea if the job already has several candidates in progress, if they have someone internal but their policy means they have to advertise the job, or god knows what else. Try not to get yourself down if you don't get any responses. It's really normal. It just becomes a numbers game so try to apply for x number of jobs each day or week, and you will hopefully find the right advert at the right time.

It literally didn't exist when I was last job hunting. Any tips?

Yep i can imagine... thanks for the honesty

That's really useful info thanks so much!

I’ve been mostly the hiring manager, so I’ll comment from that perspective. Last time I was job hunting was over 20 years ago and before that almost another 20 years prior. I know very little about being a candidate.

People who know you referring you is by far the most efficient channel. Candidates referred by people I trust almost invariably jump the queue. Use that to the maximum. This is how I’ve found my new jobs, save for the first one and one mid career.

Tailor your CV for each application. It is a lot of work, but it will increase the probability of getting an interview, which is the only purpose of a CV for you. Ensure you highlight experience that matches the role, picking key words from the job ad. I would recommend using plain English and ensuring all sentences are easy to read. Clunky text will easily send your CV to the no pile. For love of god, make sure there are no typos.

Prepare yourself for rejections and ghosting. The problem is not you. Every recruitment process has its flaws and good candidates get rejected regularly. Some of it is incompetence and some just random bad luck. Also, you have no way of knowing what is being used to filter CVs and prioritise candidates. A candidate who gets an interview will already have been very lucky, avoiding accidental rejection and somehow matching the filtering and prioritisation criteria.

When you get an interview make sure you prepare well. I’ll highlight a couple of things I think are important. Pick four or five relevant examples from your career you want to talk about and plan ahead what key things you want to say. The examples will give you a great starting point to answer even tricky questions. You will likely be able to make a bridge from a question to one of your prepared examples and therefore will immediately know how to proceed. This reduces the risk of getting stumped and gives you confidence.

A good format in answering questions is explaining situation you are talking about, what you did and what was the outcome because of your actions. Situation - your actions - outcome. Try to be fairly succinct allowing the interviewer to ask about details that are relevant for them.

If you have gaps in your CV plan what you will say about them. There is nothing wrong in taking a beak, needing a rest, being unemployed, being ill, etc.

Prepare a few questions you want to ask. If you are not curious to learn anything that easily comes across as you not caring. If they don’t give you time to ask questions it’s probably a place you’ll want to walk away from.

Final point I’ll make is that there is nothing wrong in being nervous in an interview. It is not a normal situation and most people will have at least some nerves. I’d probably be super nervous if I was to interview for a job. I would probably simply tell the interviewer that I’m nervous because it’s been a long time. A good interviewer will help you ease into the interview.

Best of luck!

Best advice I had, was to rewrite the job advert as your CV... so each application will be different.

Obviously don't lie about your experience, but if they're wanting a "dynamic self-starting highly motivated..." then, well, that's what you are.

Now, whether that forms a CV or an online form, it doesn't really matter as you'll be just copy & pasting their advert anyway.

I have been unemployed for over a year here in the states and I have a rediculous level of education and experience in very tough areas. I have had to deal with looking for work regularly and it does sorta get worse and worse. I mean 20 years ago was 2005 so that was kinda the switch over from newspapers to online classifieds. Not sure which you used. I mostly use linkedin not because its necessarily the best but my profile is more comprehensive than my resume and I have both given and recieved recommendations from people on it. So what I have there is honestly the best collection of information for an employer to make a decision on if to hire me. I feel a lot of employers and job seekers don't really get the power of the whole setup though. In particular people connecting with all sorts of people they have not actually worked with or posting on it like its facebook.

im not uk but there were

• burnouts: smoke and a lot of flannel and jean and metal taste in music. Can be nice but also mean depending on individuals and day.

-art/drama nerds: ecletic dress, mannerisms, and tastes. Usually nice but very insular and more like polite to people outside the group

-geeksNnerds: basically nerds will hang out with anyone who is not mean to them so it was nerds along with others who did not fit in anywhere else. Usually nice and polite but could lash out if they had been recieving a lot of bullying.

-jocksNcheerleaders (cool kids?): dress, mannerims, and tastes reflected current trends. Generally mean. If your not part of the group you are unimportant. Seemed to feel their group was superior.

overachievers: kept up with trends but dress, mannerisms, and apparent tastes had upscale elements. classical music, bussiness level dress, folks in honors class due to extreme study habits that had to always have one sport, one club, and some student council type thing or at least try for it. Basically everything geared toward college, resumes, future success. Generally polite but only as social as necessary for the activity they were doing. Social things were a means to an end.

-severe outsiders: these folks were so socially ackward or aggressive or whatever that they did not belong to any group and really can't even be called a group. Groups that tend to be nice to everyone try to be nice to them. Its really hard to rate their interactions with other people as they generally had a hard time with them.

Whats funny is sorta the interactions. there is interaction between jocks, overachievers, and drama. overachievers, drama, and nerds as well. nerds, burnouts. jocks and burnouts. Its more like groups had anti groups. like overachievers needed to get these checkboxes that caused them to mingle in several different groups but not burnouts who were like their anithesis. jocks and nerds are the sorta antis to each other. so drama and outsiders did not have that opposite thing but in some ways they were. drama had their broad get along with everyone while everyone was an outsider to their group maybe even more than the jock types. Then the ousiders just did not fit in anywhere so like both groups were kinda ungroups. Its hard to explain.

Some really good tips on here I agree with. Also you could check out LinkedIn jobs. Lots of companies post their jobs on there directly and also recruitment agents use it

Mine didn't really get cliquey until sixth form. Before then everyone just had different mates and then depending on which classes you had you'd have a different set of mates.

At sixth form the whole year got decimated to maybe 50 people, and some of smaller friendship groups merged into one or two groups depending on who had a car or was throwing a house party. There was some specialization: math/science/computer nerds, clear jock group, future fascists, and everyone else.

Like a lot of people, I pretty much just orbited around the different groups (not the jocks and fascists though)