Performance work, lower level issues that interact with external software, hardware spec implementation, large testing efforts, long-standing customer-side issues. Anything that throwing AI at won't immediately solve.

Long before AI I've built a career around going after the tasks people deemed too difficult or too lenghty. This strategy creates a lot of room to negotiate. Now with AI, I'm seeing people walking in circles feeding one AI text into another and not being able to interpret the AI output. That's when they stop caring whether I'm using AI or not, as long as the problem gets solved.

You'll probably write way less code than before still, but at least you get to keep more general problem solving and code analysis skills.

Are there complicated problems to solve that the AI can't handle? Or areas that are too important to risk the slop? You could focus on those. Nothing like a big dumpster fire that only you know how to put out to make people back off with the AI first bullshit.

Very nice. Needs more butts.

I've been in your shoes before. Been there for a long time, years. This is not about knowing how to ask questions. It's about anxiety and self image.

Maybe you're seeing yourself as the new guy or as the introvert, the weirdo, the different. Try to not fixate on it.

I have two tips:

1- Accept that you have a personality, some will like it, some won't. Instead of asking or faking interest, look for the people you find genuinely interesting and share your stuff with them. Small stuff, don't need to overshare or be egocentric. "Today I saw something on youtube, ..." "I don't drink coffee because one time I..." "This new project seems interesting, I wonder if...". That's how the conversation picks up and you develop a connection.

2- There is a hyper-extrovert in the group. Just avoid him. It's impossible to be around these people, they get frustrated when someone is not engaged in the conversation enough and they'll start to be mean.

"what are you going to do when all the major operating systems are ... ?"

Someone must have heard a similar question back in the Unix days.

How big are your margins with this much of side note?

If you don't fix it, it's still broken. So might as well make it a hobby. Buy nice tools and learn cool techniques. That way when something breaks you'll see it as a time investment in a thing that takes your mind out of work and "real" problems.

Nice. At our age it's all about the consistency. Take a look at this guy "K boges" on youtube. He has solid advice on how to keep working out in a way that's sustainable.

9 good pushups is solid.

Software engineering: Don't script stuff! Seriously, just stop, it's a huge waste of everybody's time. I don't fucking care if you think mygitwrapper.sh is the bomb. I want you to know your git commands by heart or just learn to use the damn history on your terminal.

Scripting is only allowed if it's part of the project's infrastructure. Stop faffing about.

yes

Mate, let's first focus on getting you better. Nevermind how the parents would react, parents aren't there forever and their reach on our lives can only go so far. I know in Asian culture things can get nasty, but at the end of the day there's just you and your sense of self. It gets better as you age and get to know yourself more and work through the issues left by trauma. But we need to get away from the morbidity aspect, that's not good for you.

Sorry, I'm not trying to be your therapist, but there's some relatability in your words, I feel an impulse to help.