hey y'all,

I don't get how I'm supposed to call a friend or a health line during a suicidal episode - I don't want anyone to talk me out of it, so why would I call them? I know I'm supposed to, but it is completely ridiculous at the time.

Background - I have post-natal depression as a man, so I live with my partner and our baby but I feel pretty much separated from her (though we are working on it). I don't trust my family or my friends, even the ones that have reached out to me with their own mental health stuff. I can talk about mental health stuff sometimes, but I can't seem to reach out during an episode - it feels embarrassing and pointless. The only thing that really helps and keeps me going is the sense of responsibility I have towards myself that I've promised to parent myself and take care of myself. So I do mirror talk every day, but often don't think of doing this during an episode.

Has anyone here had much success with automated book downloads and a self-hosted library? I've been pulling my hair out trying to get shelfmark and calibre-web automated to work for me.

I'm trying to use them for engineering textbooks which I realise is not the intended use-case, so any more appropriate suggestions would be appreciated. I want something that handles creating a searchable text layer on top on the book so I can search the textbooks more easily.

ShelfMark is having the following issues:

• not connecting to annas-archive.is. I can reach it from my browser
• the sources I want aren't covered by the indexers via prowlarr

CWA is struggling to ingest my engineering textbooks at all. I've just increased the time-out so hopefully that helps.

edit: increasing the CWA timeout setting let it get through the textbooks. shelfmark is my only problem now, assuming adding a text layer with stirling-pdf goes well 🤞

edit 2: shelfmark is now working (thanks to TheFerventLion below)! OCR in stirling-pdf is the last step

I've been setting up my first nas and set up DNS routing from my router to adguard home, which then routes traffic to nginx-proxy-manager, which then routes to the docker container for the intended service. I've spent days pulling my hair out, trying to figure out what the issue was - why all my services behind NPM were periodically unreachable on my browser. after a wifi reset on my laptop they'd come back online, but why? today I found out that although my router correctly had the DHCP setting correctly set up to route IPv4 traffic to adguard, there was a separate section in the router settings that handles IPv6 settings, and that this was set up to look for my ISP's assigned DNS provider. Just posting on the off chance anyone finds this helpful or entertaining. I am extremely tired (I have a 3 month old baby) so please bare with the poor formatting of the post!

Has anyone managed to get multiple CalDAV calendars (e.g. personal and work) to send out event invite emails using corresponding email aliases from the same email account?

I have multiple domains and aliases set up with a single email account through an email provider, but I'm just now trying to figure out how to separate the calendar into personal and work.

EDIT: I managed to get it set up and working with nextcloud! So yes, this is possible