First off, I'm going to say some. Not all men in the world are bad and not all men have traumatized me, just some. Next, I don't know if I qualify, but I would consider myself "gay" as an umbrella term as I'm bi and genderfluid (though usually more fem and lean towards girls).

3 months ago, I was dating a guy. I won't say who, some people may know but anyway, he was lowkey just kinda rude. He thought embarrassing me, putting me down, and trying to make me cry were "funny" and that's how he showed his "love", even though he would call me all sorts of names and tell me I sucked at everything all the time. NOT in a joking way. I've communicated with him about this several times, so we just broke up because I wasn't having it.

There was one time where he called me a bad catcher and a "useless idiot" because he threw a ball at my stomach and I couldn't catch it. He got really scary and screamed in my ear as well.

He has called me the B-word in front of my girlfriend as well, and we were polyamorous, so she was his ex-girlfriend. We all dated each other.

Relationship after relationship with boys or men since I was 13, it has always resulted in us breaking up because they turn out to not be who they say they are (online, especially). As I got older, I stopped online dating much and turned to mutual friends and such. But still, every guy I dated turned out to be the exact same, like my type is "toxic" men or something.

I am happily in a WLW relationship with my girlfriend, though, and I couldn't be better! We've been together for 2 years now.

I don't know what to do, I'm experimenting with creating a Lemmy instance. it's listening on port 8536 but cloudflare won't respond and connect and while i connected the tunnel to the instance, i can't figure out the error or how to make it connect to the server.

"Failed to connect to localhost port 8536 after 0 ms: Couldn't connect to server"

So, I tried linking my Lemmy instance akaris.space but it says the ssl handshake failed and i can't seem to figure out what went wrong.

I wanna post about the errors i face when making a lemmy website.

I just made a new instance but I have no clue how to federate with others like you, an inclusive community and see their posts and such. Sorry if this is the wrong place to ask

I installed YunoHost and then Lemmy through yunohost. someone else already did this and i decided to try it too. my domain, cutecafe.nohost.me, doesn't show as the lemmy instance? what do i do? why?

i'm a young woman. i've always had cats as a favorite animal. I even feel like i'd be soulmates with a cat, like they're my spirit animal. Maybe like a dæmon of some sort. i really want to be a "catgirl" and have some aspects of a cat. I start by, when I feel really cutesy, I tend to feel more like a playful kitten and I say "meow". I love cats. I know i'm not one, but i wanna be like one.

i feel so cute today!!!! meow hehe 🐈‍⬛

How are you guys? 😮 🤔

I linked my bluesky account to bridgyfed, what instances will show my account and not say “error”?

I had an online ex when i was 13. He was 33 but pretended to be a teenage boy. He confessed to me that he was actually in his 30s and that he still missed his ex who was in his 20s (22-23?) and that it was wrong for him to talk to me at my age (true).

He eventually showed his real face, which i forgot about, on his instagram (which has either been deleted by him or i forgot the username anyway). He then told me it was my fault because i guilt-tripped him into dating me and also “groomed” him, even though i didn’t make him feel bad at all. I liked him and he showed an interest, i thought he was like 14.

Sapphic girl here, 20 and my girlfriend is 19, we’ve been dating for two years and i love her sosososo much!! I dont want anyone else 💞

I’m 20 and probably wouldn’t date anyone over 39 or under 18-19. If i date someone who is 18, they also can’t be barely 18, they have to have been 18 for a while so birthday is important if they’re 18.

my current girlfriend is 19 x3