My wife described part of the test as:

Doc: do you struggle with {simple task}?

Pt: No, not at all because I have {overly complicated system} that makes {simple task} easy for me! {explains in great detail}

Doc: congratulations, you have ADHD

Make a list, especially if you can think of any “why do you do that” things that other people (or you) have said to you. Talk to the doc about the things you hate and love about yourself and others. Be honest, and realize that things that seem normal to you could all be symptoms you’ve just gotten used to. The older you are, the more likely it is.

Sometimes I stop eating something not because I’m satiated, but because I’m tired of chewing. I randomly mentioned that once and my doc said “That might be one of the most ADHD things I’ve heard.” Of course there’s a laundry list of other things.

My advice is you're not broken, or dysfunctional. Take the meds if they help you, and if they don't, that's also fine.

I took the meds and went to therapy. The meds helped but caused other undesirable side effects as well as anxiety. I tried all of them with same results. My therapy ended up focused on making me understand I'm not broken or worse than other people.

Now I'm off the meds and doing better than ever because I finally understood my forgetfulness and other adhd symptoms are only a problem to others. I'm a functional adult, remember the important things, make effort when I can and I'm allowed to make mistakes. Others need to adjust and understand more than I do.

I am not saying that I don't care about others, or how my adhd affects them, because I do. I make so much effort to mask and to please, that it causes me pain and anxiety. I had to learn to be nicer with myself, to allow mistakes and see that others make mistakes too. Now that I have accepted that, the forgetfulness got better too, because my confidence is higher and my anxiety is almost gone.

Hope this helps

Keep us updated!

For some reason I thought this was in the Dull Men’s Club community and had no idea what this was about

I'm really nervous about not getting a diagnosis, I don't think I'll be able to handle a setback. Like a lot of things in life "well I tried and failed, fuck it".