Purposely hurting a pet (either their own or someone else's).
I'd say any animal tbh, but then I know I am a hypocrite because I partake in the meat eating industry.
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Lying is a pretty big one. I trust people easily, but if you break that trust you won't get it back.
I'm not even talking about lying to me necessarily. I heard someone bragging about how they lied about stomach issues at a festival to get a tent spot near the toilets.
So you're letting me know that lying is a tool you deploy to get what you want? Good to know.
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Almost related but I find it unforgivable to abuse animals. Especially animals that rely on you and trust you, like pets.
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Every fossil fuel executive and lobbyist is irredeemably evil in my eyes. They are responsible for countless lives that have or will be unnaturally shortened and/or worsened because of their actions.
Doxxing, raping kids, drugging people.
I think i met a pure evil once: This guy rapes and has groomed a 16 year old that he constantly drugs. The 16 year old is now fully with stockholm syndrom. And is blackmailing me to not go to the police with messages of him admiting to these acts.
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Doxxing's pretty fucked. the qualities in a person that lead them to do that are canaries for some chronic issues, I think. Lolcowism, in general is like that
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Being unkind to those you deem to be in lesser stations in life.
SA my daughter. I don't even want male friends anymore after my last good friend got my 16 year old drunk off 10 shots of vodka in an hour and then carried her to his house to rape. I just don't trust guys anymore.
I should add that my mother, wife, and other daughters have all been SA. Everyone women I have ever had that privilege of talking to about this topic has been SA as well.
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I count trying to connect someone's alts together as doxing, since it violates the right to anonymity. If someone's made the choice to leave their name behind and establish a new identity, I say give them a chance. Let them be forgiven, don't tie them to their past.
But I don't think it's unforgivable. If I did, I'd be a huge hypocrite. I think everything can be forgiven if there's a commitment to do better.
(I do think exposing someone for sockpuppeting is acceptable, but that's a special case)
I would forgive a murderer before I'd forgive a scammer.
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narcissistic abuse. it gets underrated a lot, but when youre parent is a pathologic narcisisst, it really messes with your brain for the rest of your life.
Petty reason: They spoiled something I wanted to watch/read/play knowing full well my hatred of spoilers. Had this happen: I was actively in the process of playing through the Mass Effect series and a person gave me a massive spoiler. I've cut that person off and never wish to speak to them. They could not apologize and receive forgiveness if they tried, they might as well move on with their lives.
Non-personal reason: I would be hard if not impossible for me to forgive someone for having been an eligible voter in the US 2024 elections and having not voted for Harris.
There are many terrible things I've experienced and awful things I myself have done, but funnily enough I can forgive others and myself for them pretty easily. I think I usually can't forgive someone if they stubbornly take the stance that they know what is best for me in said actions or if they were sadistic enjoyment, petulance, or hatred. But actions taken in the moment of heightened emotion, desire, desperation, I tend to be very forgiving about if they ask for forgiveness, even if the acts themselves are often considered pretty extreme by most people.
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Someone talked shit about me in their Instagram posts once during one of the most difficult times in my life (unrelated to their BS). It was kind of indirect, but it was clear who they were talking about and they held up an object I had given them during their video and talked shit about it too. I know that kind of thing is common nowadays, but I don't play that game. If you have a problem with me, you don't need to slam me online behind my back... just talk to me.
I still see this person semi-regularly, but I just ignore them because I'm not interested in putting in the effort to fix our friendship when they weren't. This post is looking for "unforgivable" situations. I could maybe forgive this person if they apologized and explained themselves, but I won't ever make that move myself because I didn't do shit to deserve it.
being a cop, or being in the military (western). It's not the act itself which is unforgivable, but joining either of these groups shows that you lack judgement and that you are untrustworthy, which i don't have the patience or energy to navigate in my life.
Encouraging people to get the depopulation (emergency use authorization mrna) shots is also disqualifying to me, especially if you claim to be scientifically or medically literate, these people definitely should have known better. Usually you have to go back a few years in a person's post history to find how the behaved during covid. Not believing in bodily autonomy or informed medical consent when it really mattered is bad enough, but the unforgiveable thing to me is the lack of basic first-principles reasoning and also an inability to read scientific journals criticially. Like if you are going to bother reading them, especially if they are otherwise out of your wheelhouse, you can't just uncritically accept all of their findings without critically assessing the method, and comparing the results to other more established research. Super basic shit. But the bar is so low and was even lower during covid that just reading an abstract was enough to make you an expert. And the actual 'experts' were so cautious about losing their jobs and professional reputation that any scepticism or red flags they raised in their research were worded very subtlely or even pushed down into a kind of sub-text. Don't read a single article and then pretend you are an expert! for a complete noob you'd be better off understanding some of the important concepts, then developing a first-principles understanding of the problem space, and then to read specific pieces of research to improve the resolution of this picture.
But people don't read these things to learn or improve their understanding. They do it for a million other boring, pathological or career reasons.
In my weaker moments i shrug my shoulders and figure that these people aren't going to be great to have in the human gene pool anyway, but this dehumanising malthusian thinking is itself disgusting. I avoid depopulation advocates (knowing or unknowing) not because i value their lives (even though i do) but because i find their method of thinking repulsive.
Also anybody involved in real-estate.
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