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[+] [S] 100 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (24 children)
  • [–] 24 points 7 months ago (8 children)

    Don't go too far. Just rememeber, it's for her, not you. It's hard to do that sometimes.

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  • [+] [S] 29 points 7 months ago (7 children)
  • [–] 0 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    Those services don't cost anywhere near that. You're getting fleeced.

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  • [–] 48 points 7 months ago* (8 children)

    Just remember at this point that you're likely to experience a flood of regrets: "I didn't spend enough time with her", "Maybe I could've saved her if I [convoluted, long-shot scheme you had no way of thinking of]", "I treated her too harshly", "I didn't give her a good enough life in some way", etc.

    Discounting the possibility out of hand you have some serious skeletons in your closet, none of this is true. You'll want to feel agency over a situation you couldn't possibly have controlled to any meaningful extent, and when the inevitable is in sight, the only way you may see to express that is to look backward – and when you didn't do anything wrong, you have to make it that way.

    If you experience that, what you might not see in the moment – looking at a present you have minimal control over and a bygone past – is that there is another direction to look. You can look toward the future – to honoring the love, comfort, and companionship she gave your life and sharing that with and finding that in the pets and people in your life going forward.

    She knows she's lucky, and she knows you're lucky for having had her. You did a good job.

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  • [–] 13 points 7 months ago (6 children)

    I’m struggling with this right now after losing my kitty and my irl best friend just months apart. I’ve hit a point of pure jealousy that they will never have to see any of the evil happening today and will never feel the pain I feel. Is it possible to ever move past this?

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  • [–] 10 points 7 months ago*

    I wouldn't presume to say; I've never had personal experience with that feeling, but it's valid, I empathize, and I'm sorry you had to deal with this loss – let alone so close together. The best I think I can say is that there are still sweet, innocent animals just like your kitty and good people just like your best friend who are still with us and who still feel the weight of the world. Like before, I think the best way to honor those who've passed is to hold onto the memories you shared together and to use those as your rock while you do good to others like you would've done for them and they would've done for you. I can't say for certain you have the power to change your community online and off; I can say you always have the power to do your best.

    I hope things get better in your world and in our world, and I'm sure both of your companions would've understood how hard things are right now. There are psychological models that deal with "I feel a way, and I don't want to", but I'm not a psychologist and never will be, and frigid regurgitation of clinical models at you isn't, I'm sure, what you or anyone outside a classroom needs.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    Time is a great heeler. We had a cat pass in October last year. My partner blamed herself. He was a huge character, and it is still very raw, but it does …you get used to it. I’ve ordered a painting of him from a friend, that’s going to be a bitter sweet day. I think I might cry, again.

    Coco, who passed, on the left, Steve on the right. Steve obviously misses his best mate.

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  • [+] [S] 1 point 6 months ago* (2 children)
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  • [–] 7 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    Feel hugged and have my sympathy
    Went through something very similar and it's hard to lose a precious soul in ones live

    Make the best out of the time you have left

    I tried to tell my cat everything, I wanted to tell him. About stuff we experienced together and things that I'm sorry about.
    I'm really glad I did that and although it still didn't feel enough, it helped.

    Wish you two the best

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  • [–] 25 points 7 months ago* (2 children)

    If you can, try to find a practice that hasn't been bought up by private equity.

    Pumping prices on pet care is another straight up evil thing happening, because people will pay anything for love.

    With the result that people who really can't afford it, either go into debt or lose their pets early.

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  • [+] [S] 12 points 7 months ago (1 child)
  • [–] 15 points 7 months ago*

    I've no doubt the staff are friendly, and that the vets genuinely care.

    I myself was with the same practice for ten years, and the price for the yearly checkup was reasonable.

    Until my boy was diagnosed with kidney failure. The care was excellent, and the diagnosis correct, but the price for the bloodwork and kidney ultrasound raised eyebrows.

    I went looking. Straight up scam. The place was owned by a group that owned several other vets in the area, all with a pattern of low prices for the basics, and then 5-10 times the "norm" for everything beyond that.

    The next practice over charged 1/5 for the same bloodwork, and could have saved me over a 1000€ on the ultrasound.

    So, just double check. If you're getting the best price in your area without compromising on the care, good. But if you haven't made sure, you should.

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  • [–] 15 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    Sweet baby. I’m sure you will make the right decision for her.

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    [–] 8 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    One of my cats got a urinary blockage and it cost $5k to clean out his pp.

    If you have a male cat, you've got a 50% chance of it happening. And it's either fork up the money or put it down before it goes into full renal failure and cardiac arrest. Get pet insurance.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    If you get your male cat to drink more water, then the chances of a blockage go down. If you give them canned wetfood and pour in a couple extra empty cans of water too, they'll drink it all up and stay nice and hydrated!

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    [–] 8 points 7 months ago

    Ok, this is going to sound awful, but when it goes wrong, take her in your arms and snuggle her for as long as you want and THEN call the vet and arrange her box etc. I didn't when our baby collapsed, I was all organised and stuff instead of sitting down with him.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    she is such a sweetie and i know how hard that L was to type. I've had just the type they just get right up ins your heart.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    Wild response. If someone is willing and able to afford it, and the animal's quality of life remains reasonable, why?

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