I wouldn't presume to say; I've never had personal experience with that feeling, but it's valid, I empathize, and I'm sorry you had to deal with this loss – let alone so close together. The best I think I can say is that there are still sweet, innocent animals just like your kitty and good people just like your best friend who are still with us and who still feel the weight of the world. Like before, I think the best way to honor those who've passed is to hold onto the memories you shared together and to use those as your rock while you do good to others like you would've done for them and they would've done for you. I can't say for certain you have the power to change your community online and off; I can say you always have the power to do your best.

I hope things get better in your world and in our world, and I'm sure both of your companions would've understood how hard things are right now. There are psychological models that deal with "I feel a way, and I don't want to", but I'm not a psychologist and never will be, and frigid regurgitation of clinical models at you isn't, I'm sure, what you or anyone outside a classroom needs.

Time is a great heeler. We had a cat pass in October last year. My partner blamed herself. He was a huge character, and it is still very raw, but it does …you get used to it. I’ve ordered a painting of him from a friend, that’s going to be a bitter sweet day. I think I might cry, again.

Coco, who passed, on the left, Steve on the right. Steve obviously misses his best mate.