▲ 406 ▼ This little lass has cost me nearly 4k$ over the last few months. (lemmy.vg) submitted 7 months ago by osanna@lemmy.vg to c/cat@lemmy.world 45 comments fedilink hide all child comments
[+] osanna@lemmy.vg [S] 100 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (24 children) [deleted] permalink fedilink source hideshow 24 child comments replies: [–] ScoffingLizard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 24 points 7 months ago (8 children) Don't go too far. Just rememeber, it's for her, not you. It's hard to do that sometimes. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 8 child comments replies: [+] osanna@lemmy.vg [S] 29 points 7 months ago (7 children) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 7 child comments replies: [–] nalinna@lemmy.world 15 points 7 months ago (1 child) You're a good person and a good pet parent. All you can do is just keep doing the next right thing, until the only right thing left is to keep her from suffering. She's lucky to have you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply) [–] ScoffingLizard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 6 months ago (1 child) Sending good vibes. That really sucks! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply) [–] Lemming6969@lemmy.world 0 points 6 months ago (2 children) Those services don't cost anywhere near that. You're getting fleeced. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] osanna@lemmy.vg [S] 2 points 6 months ago* (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] smh@slrpnk.net 2 points 6 months ago Am in America and my pup had an echo last month. It was $600USD. Your prices don't sound out of line to me. permalink fedilink source parent [–] TheTechnician27@lemmy.world 48 points 7 months ago* (8 children) Just remember at this point that you're likely to experience a flood of regrets: "I didn't spend enough time with her", "Maybe I could've saved her if I [convoluted, long-shot scheme you had no way of thinking of]", "I treated her too harshly", "I didn't give her a good enough life in some way", etc. Discounting the possibility out of hand you have some serious skeletons in your closet, none of this is true. You'll want to feel agency over a situation you couldn't possibly have controlled to any meaningful extent, and when the inevitable is in sight, the only way you may see to express that is to look backward – and when you didn't do anything wrong, you have to make it that way. If you experience that, what you might not see in the moment – looking at a present you have minimal control over and a bygone past – is that there is another direction to look. You can look toward the future – to honoring the love, comfort, and companionship she gave your life and sharing that with and finding that in the pets and people in your life going forward. She knows she's lucky, and she knows you're lucky for having had her. You did a good job. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 8 child comments replies: [–] nate3d@lemmy.world 13 points 7 months ago (6 children) I’m struggling with this right now after losing my kitty and my irl best friend just months apart. I’ve hit a point of pure jealousy that they will never have to see any of the evil happening today and will never feel the pain I feel. Is it possible to ever move past this? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] TheTechnician27@lemmy.world 10 points 7 months ago* I wouldn't presume to say; I've never had personal experience with that feeling, but it's valid, I empathize, and I'm sorry you had to deal with this loss – let alone so close together. The best I think I can say is that there are still sweet, innocent animals just like your kitty and good people just like your best friend who are still with us and who still feel the weight of the world. Like before, I think the best way to honor those who've passed is to hold onto the memories you shared together and to use those as your rock while you do good to others like you would've done for them and they would've done for you. I can't say for certain you have the power to change your community online and off; I can say you always have the power to do your best. I hope things get better in your world and in our world, and I'm sure both of your companions would've understood how hard things are right now. There are psychological models that deal with "I feel a way, and I don't want to", but I'm not a psychologist and never will be, and frigid regurgitation of clinical models at you isn't, I'm sure, what you or anyone outside a classroom needs. permalink fedilink source parent [–] WolfmanEightySix@piefed.social 3 points 6 months ago (3 children) Time is a great heeler. We had a cat pass in October last year. My partner blamed herself. He was a huge character, and it is still very raw, but it does …you get used to it. I’ve ordered a painting of him from a friend, that’s going to be a bitter sweet day. I think I might cry, again. Coco, who passed, on the left, Steve on the right. Steve obviously misses his best mate. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 3 child comments replies: [+] osanna@lemmy.vg [S] 1 point 6 months ago* (2 children) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WolfmanEightySix@piefed.social 2 points 6 months ago (1 child) Sorry, I didn’t say…Coco was a boy. I think they named him that, after Coco Chanel, then found out he was a boy. Steven is named after Steven Morrisey, but we call him Steven cause we don’t really like some stuff Morrisey said. He’s my best boy and yes, he gets loads of attention, he deserves it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply) load more comments (1 reply) load more comments (1 reply) [–] naeap@sopuli.xyz 7 points 7 months ago (1 child) Feel hugged and have my sympathy Went through something very similar and it's hard to lose a precious soul in ones live Make the best out of the time you have left I tried to tell my cat everything, I wanted to tell him. About stuff we experienced together and things that I'm sorry about. I'm really glad I did that and although it still didn't feel enough, it helped. Wish you two the best permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply) [–] Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 5 points 7 months ago (1 child) cats are prone to cardiomyopathy, aka genetic enlarged heart, seems to be common in most breeds. except the rare ones. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply) [–] islandcoda42@lemmy.zip 4 points 7 months ago (1 child) She is a beautiful sweetheart and I can see how well loved she is. It sucks watching them get old. I lost my soul kitty a while ago and will think about him every day forever. Much love to you both 💕❤️💕 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply)
[–] ScoffingLizard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 24 points 7 months ago (8 children) Don't go too far. Just rememeber, it's for her, not you. It's hard to do that sometimes. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 8 child comments replies: [+] osanna@lemmy.vg [S] 29 points 7 months ago (7 children) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 7 child comments replies: [–] nalinna@lemmy.world 15 points 7 months ago (1 child) You're a good person and a good pet parent. All you can do is just keep doing the next right thing, until the only right thing left is to keep her from suffering. She's lucky to have you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply) [–] ScoffingLizard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 6 months ago (1 child) Sending good vibes. That really sucks! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply) [–] Lemming6969@lemmy.world 0 points 6 months ago (2 children) Those services don't cost anywhere near that. You're getting fleeced. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] osanna@lemmy.vg [S] 2 points 6 months ago* (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] smh@slrpnk.net 2 points 6 months ago Am in America and my pup had an echo last month. It was $600USD. Your prices don't sound out of line to me. permalink fedilink source parent
[+] osanna@lemmy.vg [S] 29 points 7 months ago (7 children) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 7 child comments replies: [–] nalinna@lemmy.world 15 points 7 months ago (1 child) You're a good person and a good pet parent. All you can do is just keep doing the next right thing, until the only right thing left is to keep her from suffering. She's lucky to have you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply) [–] ScoffingLizard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 6 months ago (1 child) Sending good vibes. That really sucks! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply) [–] Lemming6969@lemmy.world 0 points 6 months ago (2 children) Those services don't cost anywhere near that. You're getting fleeced. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] osanna@lemmy.vg [S] 2 points 6 months ago* (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] smh@slrpnk.net 2 points 6 months ago Am in America and my pup had an echo last month. It was $600USD. Your prices don't sound out of line to me. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] nalinna@lemmy.world 15 points 7 months ago (1 child) You're a good person and a good pet parent. All you can do is just keep doing the next right thing, until the only right thing left is to keep her from suffering. She's lucky to have you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply)
[–] ScoffingLizard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 6 months ago (1 child) Sending good vibes. That really sucks! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply)
[–] Lemming6969@lemmy.world 0 points 6 months ago (2 children) Those services don't cost anywhere near that. You're getting fleeced. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] osanna@lemmy.vg [S] 2 points 6 months ago* (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] smh@slrpnk.net 2 points 6 months ago Am in America and my pup had an echo last month. It was $600USD. Your prices don't sound out of line to me. permalink fedilink source parent
[+] osanna@lemmy.vg [S] 2 points 6 months ago* (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] smh@slrpnk.net 2 points 6 months ago Am in America and my pup had an echo last month. It was $600USD. Your prices don't sound out of line to me. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] smh@slrpnk.net 2 points 6 months ago Am in America and my pup had an echo last month. It was $600USD. Your prices don't sound out of line to me. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] TheTechnician27@lemmy.world 48 points 7 months ago* (8 children) Just remember at this point that you're likely to experience a flood of regrets: "I didn't spend enough time with her", "Maybe I could've saved her if I [convoluted, long-shot scheme you had no way of thinking of]", "I treated her too harshly", "I didn't give her a good enough life in some way", etc. Discounting the possibility out of hand you have some serious skeletons in your closet, none of this is true. You'll want to feel agency over a situation you couldn't possibly have controlled to any meaningful extent, and when the inevitable is in sight, the only way you may see to express that is to look backward – and when you didn't do anything wrong, you have to make it that way. If you experience that, what you might not see in the moment – looking at a present you have minimal control over and a bygone past – is that there is another direction to look. You can look toward the future – to honoring the love, comfort, and companionship she gave your life and sharing that with and finding that in the pets and people in your life going forward. She knows she's lucky, and she knows you're lucky for having had her. You did a good job. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 8 child comments replies: [–] nate3d@lemmy.world 13 points 7 months ago (6 children) I’m struggling with this right now after losing my kitty and my irl best friend just months apart. I’ve hit a point of pure jealousy that they will never have to see any of the evil happening today and will never feel the pain I feel. Is it possible to ever move past this? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] TheTechnician27@lemmy.world 10 points 7 months ago* I wouldn't presume to say; I've never had personal experience with that feeling, but it's valid, I empathize, and I'm sorry you had to deal with this loss – let alone so close together. The best I think I can say is that there are still sweet, innocent animals just like your kitty and good people just like your best friend who are still with us and who still feel the weight of the world. Like before, I think the best way to honor those who've passed is to hold onto the memories you shared together and to use those as your rock while you do good to others like you would've done for them and they would've done for you. I can't say for certain you have the power to change your community online and off; I can say you always have the power to do your best. I hope things get better in your world and in our world, and I'm sure both of your companions would've understood how hard things are right now. There are psychological models that deal with "I feel a way, and I don't want to", but I'm not a psychologist and never will be, and frigid regurgitation of clinical models at you isn't, I'm sure, what you or anyone outside a classroom needs. permalink fedilink source parent [–] WolfmanEightySix@piefed.social 3 points 6 months ago (3 children) Time is a great heeler. We had a cat pass in October last year. My partner blamed herself. He was a huge character, and it is still very raw, but it does …you get used to it. I’ve ordered a painting of him from a friend, that’s going to be a bitter sweet day. I think I might cry, again. Coco, who passed, on the left, Steve on the right. Steve obviously misses his best mate. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 3 child comments replies: [+] osanna@lemmy.vg [S] 1 point 6 months ago* (2 children) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WolfmanEightySix@piefed.social 2 points 6 months ago (1 child) Sorry, I didn’t say…Coco was a boy. I think they named him that, after Coco Chanel, then found out he was a boy. Steven is named after Steven Morrisey, but we call him Steven cause we don’t really like some stuff Morrisey said. He’s my best boy and yes, he gets loads of attention, he deserves it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply) load more comments (1 reply) load more comments (1 reply)
[–] nate3d@lemmy.world 13 points 7 months ago (6 children) I’m struggling with this right now after losing my kitty and my irl best friend just months apart. I’ve hit a point of pure jealousy that they will never have to see any of the evil happening today and will never feel the pain I feel. Is it possible to ever move past this? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] TheTechnician27@lemmy.world 10 points 7 months ago* I wouldn't presume to say; I've never had personal experience with that feeling, but it's valid, I empathize, and I'm sorry you had to deal with this loss – let alone so close together. The best I think I can say is that there are still sweet, innocent animals just like your kitty and good people just like your best friend who are still with us and who still feel the weight of the world. Like before, I think the best way to honor those who've passed is to hold onto the memories you shared together and to use those as your rock while you do good to others like you would've done for them and they would've done for you. I can't say for certain you have the power to change your community online and off; I can say you always have the power to do your best. I hope things get better in your world and in our world, and I'm sure both of your companions would've understood how hard things are right now. There are psychological models that deal with "I feel a way, and I don't want to", but I'm not a psychologist and never will be, and frigid regurgitation of clinical models at you isn't, I'm sure, what you or anyone outside a classroom needs. permalink fedilink source parent [–] WolfmanEightySix@piefed.social 3 points 6 months ago (3 children) Time is a great heeler. We had a cat pass in October last year. My partner blamed herself. He was a huge character, and it is still very raw, but it does …you get used to it. I’ve ordered a painting of him from a friend, that’s going to be a bitter sweet day. I think I might cry, again. Coco, who passed, on the left, Steve on the right. Steve obviously misses his best mate. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 3 child comments replies: [+] osanna@lemmy.vg [S] 1 point 6 months ago* (2 children) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WolfmanEightySix@piefed.social 2 points 6 months ago (1 child) Sorry, I didn’t say…Coco was a boy. I think they named him that, after Coco Chanel, then found out he was a boy. Steven is named after Steven Morrisey, but we call him Steven cause we don’t really like some stuff Morrisey said. He’s my best boy and yes, he gets loads of attention, he deserves it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply) load more comments (1 reply)
[–] TheTechnician27@lemmy.world 10 points 7 months ago* I wouldn't presume to say; I've never had personal experience with that feeling, but it's valid, I empathize, and I'm sorry you had to deal with this loss – let alone so close together. The best I think I can say is that there are still sweet, innocent animals just like your kitty and good people just like your best friend who are still with us and who still feel the weight of the world. Like before, I think the best way to honor those who've passed is to hold onto the memories you shared together and to use those as your rock while you do good to others like you would've done for them and they would've done for you. I can't say for certain you have the power to change your community online and off; I can say you always have the power to do your best. I hope things get better in your world and in our world, and I'm sure both of your companions would've understood how hard things are right now. There are psychological models that deal with "I feel a way, and I don't want to", but I'm not a psychologist and never will be, and frigid regurgitation of clinical models at you isn't, I'm sure, what you or anyone outside a classroom needs. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] WolfmanEightySix@piefed.social 3 points 6 months ago (3 children) Time is a great heeler. We had a cat pass in October last year. My partner blamed herself. He was a huge character, and it is still very raw, but it does …you get used to it. I’ve ordered a painting of him from a friend, that’s going to be a bitter sweet day. I think I might cry, again. Coco, who passed, on the left, Steve on the right. Steve obviously misses his best mate. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 3 child comments replies: [+] osanna@lemmy.vg [S] 1 point 6 months ago* (2 children) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WolfmanEightySix@piefed.social 2 points 6 months ago (1 child) Sorry, I didn’t say…Coco was a boy. I think they named him that, after Coco Chanel, then found out he was a boy. Steven is named after Steven Morrisey, but we call him Steven cause we don’t really like some stuff Morrisey said. He’s my best boy and yes, he gets loads of attention, he deserves it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply)
[+] osanna@lemmy.vg [S] 1 point 6 months ago* (2 children) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WolfmanEightySix@piefed.social 2 points 6 months ago (1 child) Sorry, I didn’t say…Coco was a boy. I think they named him that, after Coco Chanel, then found out he was a boy. Steven is named after Steven Morrisey, but we call him Steven cause we don’t really like some stuff Morrisey said. He’s my best boy and yes, he gets loads of attention, he deserves it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply)
[–] WolfmanEightySix@piefed.social 2 points 6 months ago (1 child) Sorry, I didn’t say…Coco was a boy. I think they named him that, after Coco Chanel, then found out he was a boy. Steven is named after Steven Morrisey, but we call him Steven cause we don’t really like some stuff Morrisey said. He’s my best boy and yes, he gets loads of attention, he deserves it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply)
[–] naeap@sopuli.xyz 7 points 7 months ago (1 child) Feel hugged and have my sympathy Went through something very similar and it's hard to lose a precious soul in ones live Make the best out of the time you have left I tried to tell my cat everything, I wanted to tell him. About stuff we experienced together and things that I'm sorry about. I'm really glad I did that and although it still didn't feel enough, it helped. Wish you two the best permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply)
[–] Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 5 points 7 months ago (1 child) cats are prone to cardiomyopathy, aka genetic enlarged heart, seems to be common in most breeds. except the rare ones. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply)
[–] islandcoda42@lemmy.zip 4 points 7 months ago (1 child) She is a beautiful sweetheart and I can see how well loved she is. It sucks watching them get old. I lost my soul kitty a while ago and will think about him every day forever. Much love to you both 💕❤️💕 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply)