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[–] 16 points 7 months ago

Someone somewhere will idiotically be cheering the saving of children.
Meanwhile, weekly school shootings continue and the same idiots likely arguing that nothing can be done.

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    [–] 80 points 7 months ago (68 children)

    Police responding to a shooting found Sanchez-McCray’s body in the early morning, according to early media reports, which misgendered her. Officers entered a home with an “unsecured door” and found Sanchez-McCray, who had suffered multiple gunshot wounds and died at the scene.

    Damn, almost seems targeted

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  • [–] 24 points 7 months ago

    It is, I'm betting actual fucking money and organs that it is

    The right has been dreaming of this shit for fucking YEARS. They DREAM of murdering minorities, and with Trump in the seat, they WILL NOT GET PUNISHED

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  • [–] 39 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (66 children)

    As a person of color, I make it a point to avoid the south altogether. But Virginia's not even that far south, it's practically DC area (which I view as the border on the east coast).

    I actually have a major life goal to that effect, "live my entire life without being stabbed or shot". This is partly because I don't want to be stabbed or shot, but also partly because I feel it's an indicative event, that if my life has led to a point where stabbing is a serious concern, I have already made some poor choices. In my efforts to achieve this goal, there are now a lot of places on my no-go list.

    • All former Confederate states
    • Mexico
    • All of the middle east (especially Israel)
    • India, Pakistan, Afghanistan
    • Egypt
    • Sudan
    • South Africa
    • Congo (and surrounding area)
    • Russia, (honestly most former Soviet nations)
    • China
    • Prison in general

    I could probably consolidate the list by saying "any place where my ethnicity or spoken language would cause people to instantly distrust me, or where violence is widespread or indiscriminate", but truth be told, that's most of the world.

    I also try to avoid bars & pubs.

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  • [–] 4 points 7 months ago

    Mexico is alright. Never worried about getting stabbed there.

    However, I did have to go through a federales checkpoint, and it was pretty sketchy having a few guys with submachine guns checking the car out for a few minutes.

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  • [–] 3 points 7 months ago

    Since you are a POC, you might just want to avoid East Asia and SE Asia, if you are trying to avoid racism. But even with the racism, you are highly unlikely to get attacked/injured/killed because of the POC issue. Far less likely than probably anyplace in the USA. These places are incredibly safe for all regardless of skin color.

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  • [+] -27 points 7 months ago* (52 children)
  • [–] 22 points 7 months ago* (17 children)

    That youre a metaphorical offensive driver while this person is defensive?

    what does opening a comment on here with "fuck you" say about you?

    one way is not inheritently better than the other

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  • [–] 3 points 7 months ago

    The good thing about it is you don't need to read past the first few words. Which saves us all a lot of time and effort in the long-run. A weird sort of way, it's honest (albeit impulsive) discourse. Most people nowadays seem to hide what they really mean behind double-speak.

    The bad thing is reading the rest of their comments makes me actually worried. We've all been in a bad place in our heads and some of us know just how f***ed up it can get.

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  • [+] -10 points 7 months ago* (15 children)

    , but also partly because I feel it’s an indicative event, that if my life has led to a point where stabbing is a serious concern, I have already made some poor choices

    what were my poor choices?

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  • [–] 11 points 7 months ago* (12 children)

    You can make admirable choices that also put you in danger, that's entirely valid, but that is making a deliberate choice. Routinely making poor choices however will put you into dangerous situations whether you intended to or not. Again just to be clear, I think doing humanitarian work like working with the homeless is absolutely a fantastic way to give back to your community and is in no way a poor choice.

    All that said, I'm not certain I believe you. My mother did a lot of work with the homeless too, as part of a meal program run by her church. As she did that, I used to spend evenings at the church several times a week. All that is to say, I know that community fairly well, I know the kind of people who helped out there. I know they were all kind, forgiving, understanding people. They understood that people can end up needing their service for all kinds of reasons. You on the other hand, came out swinging, ready for an argument. You called me a coward without really having any idea what kind of person I am. It didn't strike me as "kind" or "understanding".

    To sum up: "dude, chill"

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  • [–] 13 points 7 months ago (8 children)

    Do you enjoy negative attention?

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  • [–] 7 points 7 months ago (4 children)

    It certainly appears so.

    I've tried to be civil here, but I'm not sure he's on the same page. It may not be worth continuing the conversation any further here, trolls don't argue for the same reason most users do, they're playing a different game.

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  • [–] 5 points 7 months ago

    No it's not. Life can run many courses on folks. Troll or no, I see pain.

    Someone who maybe wasnt heard as a young one growing up, somone in perpetual fight or flight, someone where the inclination of a thought's thought being a personal attack, "deserves" to be defended when their honor was never questioned.. until they spoke to defend what not needed to be defended. :(

    The world is sad. It's always been sad. It manifest's through everyone. Sad day today. Let's try and make it brighter for those stuck in the dark.

    Im so sappy today, Im so sorry. I keep pulling my phone out, when I keep putting it away because I shoulnt be here in this mood. Im sorry.

    I shed a tear for ..everyone and all of it today. fuckin 'ell.

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  • [+] -8 points 7 months ago* (2 children)

    do you want to know what i was wearing when i got stabbed? was my ass crack showing? my cleavage?

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  • [–] 8 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 child)

    It doesnt matter what yoy were wearing. Getting stabbed sounds scary as hell. I got bit by a dog once in my 20s. I try not to be scared of dogs, but it effected me. I play (pve) Rust, and the wolves were giving me panic attacks...13 years later. I can't even imagine what kind of mark that event had on you. Im sorry that happened to you. I remeber the night my brother got mugged. He actually played it off with comedy, but its a whole story, point is, it's scary, it can cause trauma which has symptoms.It wasnt your fault same as it wasnt my brothers fault, and I dont blame the dog.

    please take care of yourself. Im legit gonna take off, because truthfully it's having me sob. Please take care, and be kind to yourself. I, some rando, am truly sorry this happened to you.

    We live today for those who cannot. you survived, may we honor those who didnt

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  • [+] -9 points 7 months ago (2 children)

    do you enjoy arguing with people over details of their life when you weren't there, especially when those details make you feel bad?

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  • [–] 10 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    I enjoy being helpful. I see you carrying a heavy load.

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  • [–] -5 points 7 months ago

    remarkably. i particularly enjoy when people like to turn around things that i had zero choice in and say "well if it was me it wouldn't have happened!"

    even if they are pretending to say it's just about their life, it's about other people and they know it.

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  • [–] 3 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    How about getting defensive over what someone is doing in their own life?

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  • [–] 7 points 7 months ago (11 children)

    I think you could approach this a little less angrily given this person never actually directed any vitriol toward you.

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  • [+] -8 points 7 months ago (10 children)

    that if my life has led to a point where stabbing is a serious concern, I have already made some poor choices

    what's that

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  • [–] 10 points 7 months ago (9 children)

    They dont know you. They were sharing their own expierence.

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  • [+] -6 points 7 months ago (8 children)

    so what in your opinion was the poor choice i made that led to me getting stabbed?

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  • [–] 5 points 7 months ago (2 children)

    Did anyone in fact say to you directly that you made a poor choice or earned your stabbing?

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  • [–] 4 points 7 months ago (2 children)

    NO ONE SAID ANYTHING ABOUT YOUR LIFE CHOICES. YOU JUST INJECTED YOURSELF INTO THEIR STATEMENT, AND GOT ANGRY ABOUT IT.

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  • [–] 7 points 7 months ago* (15 children)

    Uh, I think it says nobody can predict the future. My system is not guaranteed to work, it's aspirational. But it has worked for me up to this point, so I'm calling it a success so far.

    I'm glad you do work for the homeless, that's great.

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    , but also partly because I feel it’s an indicative event, that if my life has led to a point where stabbing is a serious concern, I have already made some poor choices

    what were my poor choices? I don't hold every single PoC responsible, but i was stabbed by a PoC so if you say "homeless people" i'ma come at you hard, considering i have never been a victim of crime from a single homeless person.

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  • [–] 5 points 7 months ago (13 children)

    Nobody said anything about homeless people…

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  • [+] -6 points 7 months ago* (12 children)

    read a little closer. i did. twice. no three times. wait. it's practically all i talk about. why? because people are terrified of homeless people because they're scared they'll catch the poor from them. they think they are dangerous because of, well, bigotry.

    i thought i'd give an example of something most people view as a terrible life choice (i haven't made a cent from it) that has been some of my life's most rewarding work.

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  • [–] 7 points 7 months ago (11 children)

    You’re not clever. You can’t pull off playing at being that obtuse, it just makes you look stupid.

    Nobody else mentioned them, they were not part of the conversation, you injected the subject and then chose to be offensively pissed off about it.

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  • [+] -10 points 7 months ago* (10 children)

    no, i'm pissed because she chose to say anyone who has gotten stabbed deserved it

    that if my life has led to a point where stabbing is a serious concern, I have already made some poor choices

    result of their own choices. blaming the victim.

    you are unfamiliar with what is called a red herring? go get some reading comprehension. you can pull off being that obtuse though.

    sorry i called out your anti-homeless bigotry though. have fun being a whiny bitch!

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  • [–] 9 points 7 months ago (6 children)

    You're an angry little pissant. She said no such thing, she said if she couldn't avoid ending up in a situation where stabbing is a serious concern she had made some poor choices. That's extremely different from 'getting stabbed is the victim's fault', which you chose to read it as. It's the difference between being hit by a drunk driver vs being hit by another car after running a red light. She very clearly listed places she avoids to intentionally reduce the danger of being a victim. Sane non-rage filled people understand the idea of avoiding danger just as they understand that not all people can avoid those situations nor can all danger be predicted.

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  • [–] 4 points 7 months ago (5 children)

    Are you a child? You’ve never had the realization that every other person in the world thinks, cares, and feels just as deeply as you do, have you? You really want your’s to be the only valid struggle, view, and cause, huh? It’s not.

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  • [–] -3 points 7 months ago (4 children)

    I hear bitch whining about the fundamental attribution error (am I smarter than you?)

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  • [–] 3 points 7 months ago (3 children)

    Funny, I just hear a bitch whining.

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  • [+] -10 points 7 months ago (9 children)

    Why Russia, though?
    There are lots of nice places in Mexico. Prison in Norway is downright rehabilitative. You missed North Korea.

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  • [–] 11 points 7 months ago

    Russian Project is effectively equivalent to manifest destiny, and the government has existed in service to white supremacy for a while. they call it "russian chauvanism" in the places it influences, but the Russian federation acts as a colonial imperial state

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  • [–] 6 points 7 months ago

    Well, I think Russia is another one of those places where my ethnicity or language could make me a target. Truthfully, I think I'd be more worried about the govt/police than the average citizens.

    There are totally safe parts of Mexico. I'll stay out all the same.

    Heh, I did skip right past NK, I guess I didn't figure it needed to be said.

    There's a Spike Lee film called "The 25th Hour", great movie. It takes place in NYC and has this one line delivered by someone playing a Russian Mob boss, a real intimidating character:

    I have been in three different prisons, Montgomery. Three different countries. And you know what I learned?

    ...

    I learned prison is a bad place to be.

    But I'm sure Norway is nice 😉

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  • [–] 11 points 7 months ago (6 children)

    Is homosexuality not still literally outlawed in Russia?

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  • [+] -8 points 7 months ago (5 children)

    It's a terrible and gross law but there's also a rich history I want to explore.

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  • [–] 17 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    I'm Russian, and even though i'm flattered that you'd like to explore the history of my country, nowadays i would advise doing that from outside. Until that imperialist dictator gnome is dead

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    Tragic, but TIL that women can also be drag queens. RIP.

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  • [–] 4 points 7 months ago (5 children)

    I don't know that this is a "but" situation It's still tragic even when you've learned something.

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  • [–] 20 points 7 months ago (4 children)

    It's a "but" situation because I learned something, which is good, but it was from finding out about a tragic event, which is bad.

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  • [–] 8 points 7 months ago (3 children)

    I kind of feel like we're in the Simpsons Frogurt Sketch.

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  • [–] 3 points 7 months ago
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    [–] 49 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

    Hoo boy, the article wasn't kidding. The local news story does misgender her repeatedly. (WWBT is owned by Gray Media before anyone reflexively jumps to Sinclair.)


    EDIT: Given the language of the article and given that The Progress-Index had basically the same wording, I'm going to conclude WWBT got effectively a press release from the police for publication and had minimal if any involvement in investigating this story. Fairly typical of local news stories about crimes.

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    This will probably never get properly investigated, will never lead to societal outrage, yet they cry war when someone unalives a cis white boy shouting vitriol off the highest rooftops. -_-

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