I’m just some random lady, but I do try to contribute to making the world better. It’s hard though, cause there’s so many people actively giving their all, their effort and their resources, to make it worse.
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Well, I'm just speaking for myself here, but I never had those expectations of myself. OTHER PEOPLE had those expectations of me. It wasn't until I hit middle age, and said "fuck those assholes" that I truly started being happy.
He just made zen overcomplicated.
Zen needs a points system. Gamify it to make it more compelling and competitive
That is antithetical to zen.
That's the joke
What's your favorite app for that? Anyone got recommendations? Something to help me track my progress and remind me to properly Zen like the Zen pros, but also maybe quietly compare my Zen to those around me, starting with my friends & loved ones?
I would be so Zen if I could only get some daily pointers on optimizing my ordinary, unremarkable, totally un-unique experience of reality toward the epitome of Zen©.
There's this paid app called Zenolingo. It's a simple one time fee and of course there's the Zen+ subscription you'll also want because you accrue ZenPoints much faster. They recently introduced ads but you also get ZenPoints from watching them, which imo is pretty fair.
You don't have to pay anything on top of that, but if you're running out on DailyZen then by buying ZenCredits you can top up your ZenAccount
I'm honestly glad I'm just some random jackass. Cause then I can let the small pleasures and joys in my life be meaningful. Not sure if I'm wording that very well, but yeah
Because we must be the change we wish to see in the world.
And that's a LOT of change.
I’m not just some random dude though. I’m the guy who fixed that pipe that one time. That was pretty remarkable.
If you're not a billionaire or a republican you're doing an awesome job by just not being a complete dick. Today might be a tough day, but look in the mirror, force a little smile, and tell yourself, damn, at least I didn't end up a fucking billionaire.
This made me think of the term sonder. That random ass dude in the vape store has a story. That story has beauty, sadness, joys, and much more. And so do you. Meeting people there is beautiful and rare.
Whenever I'm having a rough time, I like to play this song by Hairy Soul Man to help calm me down
Edit: OOP is probably fine, the issue was mostly caused by my own problems rather than it being something the post-maker needs to correct. I'll leave the original comment below if you still want to read it.
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This post is really frustrating: it assumes that having self-hatred means that you have superhuman expectations and then uses that to give unwanted advice and judgements.
The OOP is using a subset of a category to assume about the larger category, it's an overgeneralization and hurtful when applied to real people.
spoiler this comment is unfinished I struggled making this comment due to brain block and having trouble thinking through the reason I felt hurt by the post, and I was forced to leave the comment unfinished when I stopped being able to logically think about it entirely (I have severe executive dysfunction)
There was supposed to be a paragraph in the middle pointing out the differences in the common definition of self-hatred and their assumptions:
This is an important thing to leave out, but I didn't want to waste all the time I spent writing the comment by deleting it and I really wanted to mention that this felt hurtful to me blargh :::
I understand where you come from, but the oop literally states "a lot of", so it's about a subset, not the whole group.
And it's still good advice to remember we're just humans imho.
You're right, I think what happened when I wrote that comment was that reading the post triggered a sore spot of mine, (that being self-hatred caused by disability) and I tried to rationalize that as being a fault of the poster rather than it being a fault of my reaction to it.
I appreciate your reply.
I had a similar reaction. I'm currently unable to work and really struggling without any external structures (thank you ADHD), so telling my severely depressed mind that my self importance is out of control because I'm struggling to accept my new reality is hurtful. I spend enough time despising myself, I don't need anyone to add another reason on top.
I think this post is aimed at healthy people with extremely high self expectations, not those of us struggling with the activities of daily life. At least, that's what I'm choosing to believe.
So, I just wanted to say, you're not alone. I see you, your feelings are valid, and you're enough.
we really do inflate our sense of importance. so many of the most important parts of a healthy mind are wrapped in nihilism.
Same exact vibe for people unhappy about their family/romantic situation. You don't live in an after-school sitcom, or Hallmark movie, you're a normal dork living in the real world with real and often very flawed people. Forget about the anime protagonist with the weird hair and spectacular magic fate, you're one of those wieners sitting in the background of scenes. Take it easy on yourself.

what kinda of Ramza ass advice is this
"Surrender now, and die in obscurity!"
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