What's QST?

Wandering in, missing the rule sign, getting corrected, and apologizing is fine. I've done it; the mods there couldn't have been nicer about it. It's not an ideal system, no, but it works well enough; it's the mods shouldering that burden more than anything.

...The problem is when the guys are corrected, yet keep talking anyway. Which I see happen a lot.

There is no excuse for that.

Is the best behavior to block any community you don’t or can’t participate in? I personally don’t love that behavior because I like seeing what everyone is discussing in threads, but that’s a reasonable solution.

I feel extremely mixed about this, yeah. I feel weird even talking about it.

I personally don’t love that behavior because I like seeing what everyone is discussing in threads, but that’s a reasonable solution.

The women's space... doesn't prohibit lurking? On one hand, the community is public, and I'm curious about the perspective in the discussions. I'm interested in understanding them so I can be a more respectful person myself.

I upvote their posts so they get more exposure.

...But I don't want to violate their privacy either. Blocking is reasonable. Right now, I just upvote them but don't enter the threads.

Obviously my current strat is just reading the community before posting (like not commenting negatively about Star Gate getting a new season in the star gate community as an example that happened today lol).

Read the room, yeah.

IMO TV fandoms shouldn't worship their material. Negative discussion is allowed, otherwise the space gets toxic.

In fact, this kinda happened to one of my personal fandom spaces, /r/thelastairbender: among other things, they idolize ATLA (the original series) like a diety, to the point where anything different (including other material like Korra or the Netflix adaption) is demonized. Deeper stuff like the novels, fanfics or speculative lore is not welcome either.

That sucks. It's all too common; the Star Wars fandom (for instance) is notorious for it. And its why some negativity and 'outsider perspectives' should be welcomed in such spaces.

The women's space is different though. It's basically a shelter from the shit this group puts up with IRL and online, so being more sensitive makes sense.

I think it’s hard simply because browsing by /all, or even by communities you follow and then just in your main thread, is not set up to highlight the community or it’s rules. If something hits the front page of /all I’m rarely digging into the communities specific rules or even where it’s coming from to an extent. Only to say, it’s a learned behavior to care about the communities specifically in this site aggregator system.

Bingo. This is the classic 'read the sidebar' crap from reddit. most users aren't reading hte sidebar because the side bar doesn't exist for them when they click in front the front page.

or the 'this post is already been made why don't you search instead of making new posts'. because search is stupid and useless for the most part, and a thread from six months ago is likely not relevant today.

you get paid for internet comments?

I'll take your word for it, though I assume it is the case. Like I said....it's just the internet doing what it does (for better or worse).

"As an American" (though speaking only for myself) when I see those, I don't even go into them because my opinion wasn't solicited. I also don't throw out my opinions in non-American news/politics communities for the same reason. Also, I wish that was a two-way street.

Is that why US political posts are always filled with people from other countries?

In a public park, you can absolutely ask random people to leave your party area. Not the park, but the space you are using. Double so if you've gone through the official channels to reserve that section.

And that goes both ways: If someone is having an event and one inserts themselves where they're clearly not invited, then that person very much has issues respecting others' boundaries.

It all boils down to people respecting each other.

Whenever I see that happen, I think "wow, thanks for showing why this community needs that rule in the first place". If dudes were more chill about women trying to build their own spaces, then perhaps it wouldn't be necessary to have such a hard rule.

Maybe it's just me, but in female-only community, I'm using female as part of a composed adjective. I'd say male-only community too, it just feels more natural. In fact, in an earlier comment I wrote women only, and then writing man only felt SO bad that I changed both to female and male.

Now that I think about it it's probably because I used man instead of men. I'll change both back but OOP miiight have followed my logic? Idk

Ok. I somehow missed that. I scanned for other uses of "female" a few times but was blinded to the one right next to coworker.

Not every female is a woman. Some of them are ladies or girls.