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[–] 8 points 11 months ago (1 child)

Hello,

Thank you for sharing!

FYI, !wholesome@reddthat.com is more active

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  • [–] 8 points 11 months ago

    Thank you. My wife tells me this every day. Illness sucks but support makes it a bit easier.

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  • [–] 7 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    I'm the, "could be worse", guy for my wife. No matter how bad things are, I can always imagine something entirely possible that would be worse.

    I don't know if it helps her at all, but she seems to be amused by it.

    I live in a world of ever-present, looming disaster.

    I'm a sysadmin.

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  • [–] 6 points 11 months ago

    growth rough community

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  • [–] 9 points 11 months ago (5 children)

    Are these posts helpful for people? I'm curious.

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  • [–] 9 points 11 months ago

    It depends on where you are in life and your current head space. There is a debate about 'toxic positivity propaganda' being used to shift decreased morale from systemic issues onto individuals, but it's very muddy territory.

    Some people just shut out this messaging. Others can find it encouraging when no one else is in their corner.

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    [–] 5 points 11 months ago (2 children)

    Am I the only one that these empty platitudes make feel worse??

    How are people happy to be told all that, based on nothing at all. Cause and effect, if there's no cause the effect is invalid.

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  • [–] 6 points 11 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

    I see it just as positive vibes. It's someone throwing a bottle in the ocean hoping it will reach someone who might need the message inside it.

    I can totally understand the other way around though, it can feel invalidating like behing told that sleeping 8 hours, meditating 15 minutes per day and eating well will solve every single of your problems when you have to deal with a crippling condition every single day of your life. It can be infuriating.

    I try to focus on the non-verbal narrative and tell myself that it's just a person sending positive vibes in their own way.

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  • [–] 6 points 11 months ago*

    Nah, I don't respect the parts about it being temporary and me being able to beat it too much either. I don't mind the drive-by positivity as such, but assuming I'll ever be able to get better when the reality is different does not make absorbing the positivity very easy.

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  • [–] 3 points 11 months ago

    The unconditionallity of some affirmations damages their credibility...

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  • [–] 2 points 11 months ago

    No, I will not beat this. Illness isn't something you beat, it's something someone cures. Or not.

    I don't like the implication that if you don't get better you're not fighting hard enough.

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  • [–] 1 point 11 months ago
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    [–] 4 points 11 months ago

    It's a kind sentiment, but one that hurts little for us chronically ill folks.

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  • [–] 4 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    Thank you for crossposting!

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  • [–] 1 point 11 months ago (3 children)

    Thanks for saying this. So many false things said in the name of 'being positive'.

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