Note to self: never comment on blahaj

You can misgender someone there without intending to and be banned for it. Having a nuanced opinion isn’t going to go over well over there.

My Lemmy account was banned because I use dude as a non-gender term, according to the holy verses then in my attempts to assert I wasn’t applying genitals or identity to anyone I was banned.

And let’s not get started on people abusing their acceptance by deliberately satirizing it … remember the dragon dude?

But people already have a public place to appeal. This sub, the sub you linked, pretty much any other instance that has a meta discussion community. But posting here, or there, isn't an actual appeal process - it's just publicly complaining about administrators.

And that was the answer to OP's question: that there's no single fediverse-wide place to appeal a ban, you have to follow instance specific appeal procedures, if they exist, and/or contact the instance's administrators directly.

Which is a good thing, because it helps keep the verse decentralized.

I think, if there was a single location where the fediverse started telling people "if you get banned, post here to appeal", users would expect some sort of formal response to their post, and get upset when people tell them posting there doesn't actually do anything. Which would be bad. And if that location could do anything to encourage administrators to reverse ban decisions, via peer pressure or otherwise, that would also be bad, because it would compromise the independence of instances. That is to say, a fediverse wide appeal community would be at best useless and at worst harmful to the fediverse.

So I think the only appropriate response to "I was banned, what can I do" is "that's between you and the people who banned you".

Thank you for this comment. I do hope that the instance continues to be an inclusive place for trans folks and their allies. I'd like to clarify that I didn't intend to make anyone feel they needed to defend their identity; the fact that my message was poorly worded was the cause of that.
Cards on the table, I'm someone many would consider an egg. I'm a cis male, but I've always felt more comfortable talking with women, and have always felt that I wished I'd been born female (I've never had dysphoria though). After a lot of discussions with the trans community, I came to see that I'm ultimately comfortable with who I am.
So when I make statements to the tune of "It's important to some people that their trans identity is recognized", it comes from the heart. Again, I recognize that I initially worded that in probably the worst way, and I apologize sincerely to anyone I offended.