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[–] 27 points 1 year ago (9 children)

I mean obviously not everything everyone is going to talk about is going to be scientifically accurate. Those two examples give big “Uhm ahcktualllly” energy as they’re simply helpful to explain simple patterns because everyone knows what you mean by them.

Better examples (in my mind) would be real woo-woo shit like alt medicine or energy crystals.

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 1 year ago (6 children)

    the point is that even skeptic people believe in love language, and stockholm.. not so many in energy cristal

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  • [–] 18 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    But what does “believing” in love languages mean? Everyone I know who’s talked about them has framed it as how they enjoy showing and receiving affection, which is not pseudoscience- people have preferences. I’d be annoyed as shit if someone gave me tiny presents on a regular basis, and physical touch reassures me, this is important information to share with a potential romantic partner. Do you disagree there or is there a different issue with love languages?

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Love language was invented by a pastor with no science testing, or confirming. Does it sound believable, sure. But, it has no predictive use. Like MBTI, it sound reasonnable, except, it is wrong. 2 week later, same test, you will have another MBTI. Every male have touch as love language, because they are often shown less physical affection as a kid than woman

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Which sounds reasonable and like a good thing to do in a relationship.

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  • [–] 0 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Until someone decides their love language is receiving gifts all the time and having everything done for them

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago*

    Well, no.

    If that’s how they feel that’s valuable info for everyone, too. They can break up because there are plenty of people who enjoy doting on their partner, even if some random specific person, like the current partner, doesn’t. It’s just a matter of finding someone who meshes with you, and knowing details narrows down the search.

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  • [–] 11 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Wait Stockholm syndrome isn't real?

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  • [–] 11 points 1 year ago

    Dudes period and comma buttons have switched places.

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  • [+] 9 points 1 year ago (1 child)
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    Pretty much everything you think you know is a generalized and imperfect model.

    And there isn't a problem with that as long as you can recognize that you mustn't inappropriately apply them.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    Psychology is a pseudoscience.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    But lots of people experience and identify with "Love languages" and "Stockholm syndrome." In fact both concepts resonate with me. They are merely words to describe people's subjective experiences. You can't say that people's feelings are "pseudo." Do you want me to invalidate all your feelings? How does that feel? Or do you not have any feelings or subjective experiences?

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 1 year ago (2 children)

    unfortunatly, the reality do not care for our feeling. If you're a flat earther you are hurt when you are told the eath is round. And whatever your feeling, it is still round.

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  • [–] -1 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Flat earth is pseudoscience.

    Love language & Stockholm syndrome are subjective experiences.

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  • [–] [S] 0 points 1 year ago

    Interesting. So a belief could be accepted, if your identy resolve around it. Believing in Allah, or Vishnou or God are subjective experience. But not 3 of them can be true. change flat-earth with astrology, if the problem is the subjective part. Or the MBTI test.

    Love language pretend that people are bound to express love in certain way. It was a made up by a dude in early 1900 with no science test, base, or research.

    The fact that you believe in it, has no impact about its validity as a reality . The same for stockholm. Because you "feel" it is right, does not make it right.

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