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[–] 58 points 1 year ago (6 children)

I find the "Attention deficit" part of it to be pretty apt for myself. Although it's more of an attention regulation deficit to be more specific. There's probably worse names out there.

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  • [–] 57 points 1 year ago (5 children)

    That name is a big part what's kept me from getting help, because until very recently I drastically misunderstood what ADHD was. "I can't have this thing. I'm so good at paying attention that I don't eat or pee all day."

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  • [–] 43 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Growing up, I was the gifted kid and my brother was the hyper socialite.

    Because he was hyper and I was mild-mannered (until I hit my teens and became an outcast, so I embraced punk culture) my parents only ever got my brother tested for ADHD. Nope, he was just a hyper little twerp with too much energy.

    Meanwhile, I had absolutely zero ability to stick to a schedule that relied on my commitment to it, couldn't maintain any semblance of organization, was always forgetting small things, procrastinating until the last minute on every assignment without ever studying (yet somehow was still making A's, American education is a joke), would hyper focus for hours on single topics. Nah, to my parents I was a good student who was just "lazy" and "not applying myself".

    Didn't get diagnosed AuADHD until last year. I'm in my 30s.

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  • [–] 16 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    45 here. JUST started on meds.

    I have a toddler and his lunacy just shine a flashlight on my inability to complete tasks in a timely manner.

    Not to mention once I was changing his diaper, the phone alarm was going off and Mrs Rachel was blaring on the TV... I got irrational angry. Not at any one thing... Just mad.

    That's what made me go and seek help.

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  • [–] 13 points 1 year ago

    That irrational anger from being overwhelmed has ruined my life. Was barely able to hold a job cause of it. Outbursts in relationships that were interpreted wrong and snowballed. Still an issue cause I am currently not medicated and have a hard time getting healthcare (God bless the USA) but I have better coping methods. Still rough though.

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  • [–] 11 points 1 year ago

    I think it has less to do with the actual name ADHD as it does with the stereotypes that laypeople think of and with the actual diagnostic criteria. Regardless of the name, how it is viewed is much more of an outside perspective rather than a description of what it's actually like. Autism has a similar issue as well.

    Plus, at the time I was growing up the DSM-IV said that you can't have both ADHD and Autism which is probably part of why I was diagnosed with neither.

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  • [–] 20 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Wait, the need for external validation is a symptom of Always Discovering Hobbies Disorder? I thought it was just my upbringing and personality 🤔

    Is that need part of the neurodivergence or a result of it?

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  • [–] 22 points 1 year ago (5 children)

    I don't have ADHD, but I feel like this is perhaps too simple of an answer.

    I imagine, when the first diagnoses came in, people were not aware that they experienced life differently than others. They probably assumed that everyone else struggled just as much, but somehow was better at it. At least, that still seems to be a common theme when kids get diagnosed today.

    And so, of course, past kids didn't go to the doctor for what they assumed to be normal, but rather got sent there by teachers who described what they saw from the outside.

    I guess, I mainly take issue with this post implying that Big They™ intentionally chose a bad name, when there's a fairly simple explanation why this would happen without a conspiracy.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 year ago

    Sitting still for more than a few minutes wasn't a requirement for most people until very recently... You could just be "energetic" or "absent minded" or whatever. Maybe you often get distracted or are disorganized, that's not a disorder, that's just a disposition

    It didn't really become a mental disorder until sitting and paying attention for 6+ hours a day became something everyone must do. And then it wasn't the kids complaining that anyone cared about, they were trying to "fix" disruptive or inattentive kids

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    I don't see anything conspiratorial in the post. It's the usual pattern of medical advancements focusing on certain types of people over others. Same thing happens with women, POC, etc, etc, etc. It not (usually) being an active, conscious choice to do so doesn't mean it's not a problem.

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  • [–] 0 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    The conspiratorial part is really just the non-descript they/them in "it's so obvious they named it based on how we inconvenience them".

    All conspiracy theories work that way. You establish a badly demarcated group of supposedly evil people, like the Illuminati, the Jews, the Witches, the Immigrants, the Trans Community, the Doctors Without ADHD That Named ADHD.
    And then you blame it on that group whenever anything bad happens, without coming up with a real explanation, because well, they're evil, of course they would do that.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

    I know this is a joke, but for anyone wondering, it was named by scientists and doctors... They don't just make shit up for naming things like this.

    Factually there is a measure of deficit to the ability for people with this issue, to maintain the focus of their attention on any particular thing, in a normal fashion. Normal being that neurotypical people can choose what they focus their attention on, and don't really have any trouble doing that.

    The hyperactivity part, I believe is more about the physiological effects in the brain for people with the disorder. I'm not a doctor, but I believe one of the main characteristics of ADHD, is that dopamine receptors are hyperactive, leading to a deficiency of dopamine (and/or other signaling chemicals) in the brain. This can cause depression, anxiety... The list goes on.

    So yeah. ADHD.

    I dunno for sure. I'm just some guy with ADHD.

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  • [–] 10 points 1 year ago

    I noticed that at school in my kid's class: Several students with ADHD, and all the teachers care about is that they are sedated and sit still. They don't care for them reaching their potential, avoiding all this frustration.

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  • [–] 17 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

    from the country that brought you Drapetomania and Annoying Bitch Syndrome.

    Turns out a lot of the DSM is written to Pathologize people who are incompatible with American culture

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago

    There's a growing acceptance in the ADHD community that the name is no longer particularly relevant.

    However a lot of very good anti-discrimination rules and laws mention it by name.

    And so changing the name would have an immediate negative effect on the rights of those with the condition. So probably until we have some massive breakthrough about the thing we know as "ADHD", it's likely to keep the name.

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  • [–] -4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Say it together all.

    AD(H)D/Autism is how neurotypicals perceive us.

    Neurodivergent is how we perceive ourselves.

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  • [–] 11 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    There's nothing wrong with wanting our form(s) of neurodivergence to be named. It helps people, including ourselves, understand what it changes about us amd how other people chose to handle them.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    Searxng is technically the best privacy alternative m, anyone can host it including you. But if you rely on someone else hosting you cant truly know what they did to it.

    But i do admit results suck often (and are different per instance), for actual useful search there are few proper alternatives.

    Startpage is to google what duck is to bing. I consider them equivalents.

    What i personally prefer are Bookmarks of trusted sources like wikipedia and any site you have an account on.

    I rarely actually need search nowadays and to be honest when i do i often cant find good information anyway, just junk sites.

    I have a bookmark for both a for privacy stripped google and bing for when i do (basically treat me as a fresh new user ever time) as secure as startpage and duck i presume.

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  • [+] -15 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Imagine thinking it's a mental disorder when you are nice to people you like. Explains a lot about the world tho.

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  • [–] 22 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    It's a disorder when needing people to like you, or doing things to make others happy, comes at too great an expense to your own well-being.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago

    Another way in which I can relate to ADHD although my neurodivergence is PTSD. So many apparently overlapping symptoms I thought I had ADHD for a while.

    The thing that makes me understand it's trauma is that the dire need to please people, the hypersensitivity, and the way I freeze when I should be getting stuff done or going to bed, are all because my my brain was wired over several years of childhood to say I am in danger.

    My brother does have ADHD and we're eachothers best allies because we each have this thing that's sort of shared but also completely different.

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