It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness, that is life. And the meaning of life is to just live it. It will all work out in the end, one way or another. See where it goes. Keep trying, but also keep taking care of yourself and your loved ones. Treasure every moment you have together. Be kind to yourself. Be proud of yourself. You deserve it.

Well, i have a daughter just getting ready to enter the workforce with a lot of similar challenges. I'm proud of you, if that helps.

Don't rally have any advice, just want to send some virtual hugs!

There is one thing though, you clearly have strength. Since this is the second time, that means you didn't give up first time around, and as much as you might find it tempting, you're not giving up now, either.

Proud of you!

You'll be alright Daria, take it one day at a time and be kind to yourself. Cry when you need to cry, but try to find something to laugh about too. You're in our thoughts, any dad would be proud of you.

Hey there Daria.

There are some pretty heavy things on your plate. It can be really discouraging when it feels like ya just can't catch a break.

BUT. You are doing a great job. You're working hard to improve the situation. You're supporting your wife through her (also very heavy) issues.

COBRA sucks, for how expensive it is. It's also super helpful in situations like the one you're facing. Good job for keeping up with it, and i know its not easy.

As regards the job search

also a crap situation. I don't pretend to know the details of your field or education. Maybe it would be appropriate to consider work in adjacent or similar roles. Or maybe a less senior role than your goal.

On the other hand, that might not be appropriate, but I trust you to consider all of your options.

Possibly even, depending on other factors like time and home responsibilities, a "throwaway" job like retail orcoffer shop. Having some income is a huge step up from none. There can also be pretty powerful emotional benefits to doing something as well. When i was a young man in a foreign land and found myself working in a fried chicken fastfood place .... an old man saw me one day and I guess he noticed that I was feeling bad about it all. He said something like "don't ever be ashamed of honest work". Those words did not take the stink of fryer grease out of my hair, but they did stay with me in a positive way.

Don't let any part time work interfere or delay your real-job search though. And maybe this isn't the right approach, its just an idea.

You might consider going with your wife to the oncologists office at whatever hospital y'all are using. Look to speak with one of the social workers there about your insurance/cobra situation. Those folks often have good knowledge of 'the system' and might be able to help in your planning. It is okay to go and see them before things are really desperate

Above all, remember that you ARE loved and you ARE doing the right things and I am genuinely proud of you for sticking with it, supporting your family and also for reaching out to ask for help. You deserve (and are awarded) hugs each day.

Seeing you fight through this shows me just how strong you really are. I've always been proud of who you are, and I don't ever want to hear you hurting like this. I wish I could take all the hurt away 🫂