I rescind my comments about hatred, I was in a different mode yesterday, but it could be said that I was radicalized because of anger and then discovered scientific socialism which also affected my perspective of the world. Though, it's not un-proletarian to feel hatred towards reactionaries.

the bourgeoisie rarely actually believe in Fascism.

Fascism is what they tell to working class people who are angry to save themselves from that anger, most of them know it's a trick, rarely do they want to pull such emergency measures because fascism tends to hurt profits. Most bourgeois are liberals.

I hold to a very anti-violence form of Communism.

Then that's a very utopian and unscientific form of communism. Violence is not good or bad, that's idealism. Violence is used against the working in the form of wage-slavery, police, and imperialist militaries, you cannot abolish these things without revolutionary violence, it's just not possible. Like Palestinians, for example, are absolutely justified in defending themselves from their eradication using violence, since begging Israeli colonizers would never work.

their dream of a master race and dream of authoritarian control rests in their manipulation of the working class

This is not entirely true, racism often emerges from higher waged racially privileged workers as a way of protecting their jobs against more easily exploitable racialized workers. It's a myth that the white working class does not benefit from the ideology of white supremacy. They absolutely do have things to gain from maintaining it and that is what racism is so stabilizing for the capitalist system: if you give a portion of workers some stake in the system that allows them to benefit from the oppression of minorities, then they are far less likely to object to capitalist exploitation. A good example is in Rhodesia, where white workers unions organized against enslaved black people taking their jobs, not because they opposed colonialism, but because their higher paying jobs were being replaced by ultra-cheap black laborers. White settlers in Rhodesia, South Africa, basically everywhere, were in conflict with their bourgeoisie, but instead of wanting power, wanted their share of the profits of colonialism.

The same process turns men into reactionaries, capitalism maintains patriarchy, and they know that patriarchy benefits them by enslaving women to them, legally, emotionally, or in other ways.

Patriarchy and white supremacy aren't lies, they really do materially benefit racists and misogynists and allows them to be petty rulers over minority groups. Some people legitimately prefer the ability to abuse other people over real liberation. It is too psychologically satisfying for them to give it up. Those types have to be terrorized by the minority groups they oppress for them to change their minds.

If you rely on working class white people and men and citizens of imperialist countries you will be disappointed. Their material interests align more with maintaining the systems of oppression that benefit them and fighting to abolish them would require actions that are too risky for them to undertake. Only the desperate cause change, they are the ones willing to sacrifice themselves to pave the way for progress, the rest are just following behind them and not actively causing change.